"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I met this girl a while back and was severely AFC. I was texting a bunch etc. Since then, I've got some plates spinning, did a complete 180 and havent' had any contact with this girl in weeks and haven't seen her in probably a month. I was trying change while we were still engaging in conversations but it was more difficult when there are zero options, so I basically just blew it up. I k closed her and that's about it. Now that I have some options and have a much better feel of what I'm doing, is there any recovery here? Can I send a ping text or call her out of the blue or just let it go? It's almost as if I want to try to recover this one just to prove something to myself now and not because I'm hung up on it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trying to prove something still comes from a place of neediness even if your intentions aren't to get her back - you are still trying to qualify. Do not fool yourself.


Wait til she reaches out to you or you run into her. Be the man and take it from there.

Seems like you are a rookie - I recommend the DJ bible and bouncing around this site to learn what governs attraction with women in the meantime.
 
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If you've got plates spinning then what is the point? She doesn't matter.
 
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Dgwizdal said:
Trying to prove something still comes from a place of neediness even if your intentions aren't to get her back - you are still trying to qualify. Do not fool yourself.


Wait til she reaches out to you or you run into her. Be the man and take it from there.

Seems like you are a rookie - I recommend the DJ bible and bouncing around this site to learn what governs attraction with women in the meantime.
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I get what you're saying about the intentions and I've been searching around here off and on. I'm super busy now and I think what killed me with this girl was the lack of options and I was on break so I had TONS of time on my hands.

Anyway, Ill just wait. Several weekends ago she texted me to ask what I was doing but I was passed out from a long day and didn't get back to her till late. She pulled the same thing on me the night after. It was stupid and incredibly telegraphed from her end. I didn't get back to her & haven't heard from her since so Ill just keep doing my new thing and get more options. Thanks man.
 
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