"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Any leadership book to recommend?
- Thread starter frencha
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Ease yourself gradually into such situations and you will develop the nesessary skills.No book needed.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time
The 48 laws of power is a good book, tho often kinda hard to 'implement' the laws into your life
Make sure you understand the difference between leadership and management
Leadership can’t really be "taught" - it’s more part of your personality/attitude that you can develop with experience and time...
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
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QUALITIES AND CHARACTERISTICS OF A SUCCESSFUL LEADER
1. Leads by example; always cares for his/her soldiers.
2. Is self-confident and takes charge while utilizing and developing subordinates.
3. Understands and lives by Army Values and the Warrior Ethos.
4. Is physically, morally, mentally, and spiritually fit.
5. Has common sense - effectively manages resources (time, personnel, equipment, etc.).
6. Takes initiative while fostering teamwork and enhancing individual and organizational growth.
The sixteen leadership dimensions are defined as:
a. MENTAL (ME) Possesses desire, will, initiative and discipline.
b. PHYSICAL (PH) Maintains appropriate level of physical fitness and military bearing.
c. EMOTIONAL (EM) Displays self-control; calm under pressure.
d. CONCEPTUAL (CN) Demonstrates sound judgment, critical/creative thinking, moral reasoning.
e. INTERPERSONAL (IP) Shows skill with people; coaching, teaching, counseling, motivating and empowering.
f. TECHNICAL (TE) Possesses the necessary expertise to accomplish all tasks and functions.
g. TACTICAL (TA) Demonstrates proficiency in required professional knowledge, judgment, and war-fighting.
h. COMMUNICATING (CO) Displays good oral, written, and listening skills for individual/groups.
i. DECISION-MAKING (DM) Employs sound judgment, logical reasoning, and uses resources wisely.
j. MOTIVATING (MO) Inspires, motivates, and guides others toward mission accomplishment.
k. PLANNING (PL) Develops detailed, executable plans that are feasible, acceptable, and suitable.
l. EXECUTING (EX) Shows tactical proficiency, meets mission standards, and takes care of people/resources.
m. ASSESSING (AS) Uses after-action and evaluation tools to facilitate consistent improvement.
n. DEVELOPING (DE) Invests adequate time and effort to develop individual subordinates as leaders.
o. BUILDING (BD) Spends time and resources improving teams, groups, and units; fosters ethical climate.
p. LEARNING (LR) Seeks self-improvement and organizational growth; envisioning, adapting and leading.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.