"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Any leadership book to recommend?
- Thread starter frencha
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Ease yourself gradually into such situations and you will develop the nesessary skills.No book needed.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time
The 48 laws of power is a good book, tho often kinda hard to 'implement' the laws into your life
Make sure you understand the difference between leadership and management
Leadership can’t really be "taught" - it’s more part of your personality/attitude that you can develop with experience and time...
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
http://webcache.googleusercontent.c...ns&cd=12&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a
QUALITIES AND CHARACTERISTICS OF A SUCCESSFUL LEADER
1. Leads by example; always cares for his/her soldiers.
2. Is self-confident and takes charge while utilizing and developing subordinates.
3. Understands and lives by Army Values and the Warrior Ethos.
4. Is physically, morally, mentally, and spiritually fit.
5. Has common sense - effectively manages resources (time, personnel, equipment, etc.).
6. Takes initiative while fostering teamwork and enhancing individual and organizational growth.
The sixteen leadership dimensions are defined as:
a. MENTAL (ME) Possesses desire, will, initiative and discipline.
b. PHYSICAL (PH) Maintains appropriate level of physical fitness and military bearing.
c. EMOTIONAL (EM) Displays self-control; calm under pressure.
d. CONCEPTUAL (CN) Demonstrates sound judgment, critical/creative thinking, moral reasoning.
e. INTERPERSONAL (IP) Shows skill with people; coaching, teaching, counseling, motivating and empowering.
f. TECHNICAL (TE) Possesses the necessary expertise to accomplish all tasks and functions.
g. TACTICAL (TA) Demonstrates proficiency in required professional knowledge, judgment, and war-fighting.
h. COMMUNICATING (CO) Displays good oral, written, and listening skills for individual/groups.
i. DECISION-MAKING (DM) Employs sound judgment, logical reasoning, and uses resources wisely.
j. MOTIVATING (MO) Inspires, motivates, and guides others toward mission accomplishment.
k. PLANNING (PL) Develops detailed, executable plans that are feasible, acceptable, and suitable.
l. EXECUTING (EX) Shows tactical proficiency, meets mission standards, and takes care of people/resources.
m. ASSESSING (AS) Uses after-action and evaluation tools to facilitate consistent improvement.
n. DEVELOPING (DE) Invests adequate time and effort to develop individual subordinates as leaders.
o. BUILDING (BD) Spends time and resources improving teams, groups, and units; fosters ethical climate.
p. LEARNING (LR) Seeks self-improvement and organizational growth; envisioning, adapting and leading.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.