"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Any leadership book to recommend?
- Thread starter frencha
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
Ease yourself gradually into such situations and you will develop the nesessary skills.No book needed.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time
The 48 laws of power is a good book, tho often kinda hard to 'implement' the laws into your life
Make sure you understand the difference between leadership and management
Leadership can’t really be "taught" - it’s more part of your personality/attitude that you can develop with experience and time...
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
http://webcache.googleusercontent.c...ns&cd=12&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a
QUALITIES AND CHARACTERISTICS OF A SUCCESSFUL LEADER
1. Leads by example; always cares for his/her soldiers.
2. Is self-confident and takes charge while utilizing and developing subordinates.
3. Understands and lives by Army Values and the Warrior Ethos.
4. Is physically, morally, mentally, and spiritually fit.
5. Has common sense - effectively manages resources (time, personnel, equipment, etc.).
6. Takes initiative while fostering teamwork and enhancing individual and organizational growth.
The sixteen leadership dimensions are defined as:
a. MENTAL (ME) Possesses desire, will, initiative and discipline.
b. PHYSICAL (PH) Maintains appropriate level of physical fitness and military bearing.
c. EMOTIONAL (EM) Displays self-control; calm under pressure.
d. CONCEPTUAL (CN) Demonstrates sound judgment, critical/creative thinking, moral reasoning.
e. INTERPERSONAL (IP) Shows skill with people; coaching, teaching, counseling, motivating and empowering.
f. TECHNICAL (TE) Possesses the necessary expertise to accomplish all tasks and functions.
g. TACTICAL (TA) Demonstrates proficiency in required professional knowledge, judgment, and war-fighting.
h. COMMUNICATING (CO) Displays good oral, written, and listening skills for individual/groups.
i. DECISION-MAKING (DM) Employs sound judgment, logical reasoning, and uses resources wisely.
j. MOTIVATING (MO) Inspires, motivates, and guides others toward mission accomplishment.
k. PLANNING (PL) Develops detailed, executable plans that are feasible, acceptable, and suitable.
l. EXECUTING (EX) Shows tactical proficiency, meets mission standards, and takes care of people/resources.
m. ASSESSING (AS) Uses after-action and evaluation tools to facilitate consistent improvement.
n. DEVELOPING (DE) Invests adequate time and effort to develop individual subordinates as leaders.
o. BUILDING (BD) Spends time and resources improving teams, groups, and units; fosters ethical climate.
p. LEARNING (LR) Seeks self-improvement and organizational growth; envisioning, adapting and leading.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.