Right here we go.. i was in a club on friday when i got to meet a woman n we were talking and even some slow dancing... but no kissing (yet anyway!!!!!). we exchanged numbers and she even made contact that nite/morning (3am) (it was my birthday). She has said she would love to meet up and suggested drinks or movie... no i know that it is a good start but i was just wondering whether i should 1. suggest other ideas and 2. if she is truly interested. I am still fresh with this skilled DJing business so any expert advice is welcome........
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Any ideas welcome
- Thread starter DJ Suave
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
perhaps you can agree with the suggestion for drinks and you suggest the place you go to, prefably some place you're comfortable and familiar with. a nice cosy place.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Of course she is interested - she took the initiative and she is the woman!!
You decide what and when and where - don't do a movie!!!
You decide what and when and where - don't do a movie!!!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I kinda thought drinks and bowling (cos its fun, n if u get stuck for conversation then there is always something to do).
I called her last nite n had to leave a message on her answering machine.... she aint got back 2 me yet so i am waiting 2 her back from her. If she doesnt call me should i call her again, if so when?? i was thinkin thursday night
I called her last nite n had to leave a message on her answering machine.... she aint got back 2 me yet so i am waiting 2 her back from her. If she doesnt call me should i call her again, if so when?? i was thinkin thursday night
Hmm, if you left a message obviously she knows you called, if she's interested she will return the call. Granted it is possible for her to forget, but if she hasn't called within a a few days she most likely won't be. You could wait and try again in about 4-5 days, and if she still doesn't return your call I'd wait and let her make the next move. She's got your number, if she's interested she'll be thinking of you and will call. Oh, and bowling is something different, good idea.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
dont call back. yup.. if she's interested she'll call. if not just forget about it, her interest level in you probably isn't very high! do update to tell us if she did contact you back. bowling is a great idea. good chance for kinoing if she sucks at it. you know. show her how to handle the ball? yeah. you get the picture.