Right here we go.. i was in a club on friday when i got to meet a woman n we were talking and even some slow dancing... but no kissing (yet anyway!!!!!). we exchanged numbers and she even made contact that nite/morning (3am) (it was my birthday). She has said she would love to meet up and suggested drinks or movie... no i know that it is a good start but i was just wondering whether i should 1. suggest other ideas and 2. if she is truly interested. I am still fresh with this skilled DJing business so any expert advice is welcome........
"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Any ideas welcome
- Thread starter DJ Suave
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
perhaps you can agree with the suggestion for drinks and you suggest the place you go to, prefably some place you're comfortable and familiar with. a nice cosy place.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Of course she is interested - she took the initiative and she is the woman!!
You decide what and when and where - don't do a movie!!!
You decide what and when and where - don't do a movie!!!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I kinda thought drinks and bowling (cos its fun, n if u get stuck for conversation then there is always something to do).
I called her last nite n had to leave a message on her answering machine.... she aint got back 2 me yet so i am waiting 2 her back from her. If she doesnt call me should i call her again, if so when?? i was thinkin thursday night
I called her last nite n had to leave a message on her answering machine.... she aint got back 2 me yet so i am waiting 2 her back from her. If she doesnt call me should i call her again, if so when?? i was thinkin thursday night
Hmm, if you left a message obviously she knows you called, if she's interested she will return the call. Granted it is possible for her to forget, but if she hasn't called within a a few days she most likely won't be. You could wait and try again in about 4-5 days, and if she still doesn't return your call I'd wait and let her make the next move. She's got your number, if she's interested she'll be thinking of you and will call. Oh, and bowling is something different, good idea.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
dont call back. yup.. if she's interested she'll call. if not just forget about it, her interest level in you probably isn't very high! do update to tell us if she did contact you back. bowling is a great idea. good chance for kinoing if she sucks at it. you know. show her how to handle the ball? yeah. you get the picture.