"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Any engineers here?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I wanted to be a computer engineer but couldn't handle the university work load. Well.. I could handle it in terms of getting decent grades, but I was too miserable to do 4 more years of that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm a Microsoft Certified Systems Engineer... Testing in progress for the past 4 years. :whistle:
 

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I"m thinkin of studying chemical engineering, how you finding it?
 

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I'm an electronics and telecommunication engineer
But currently working in a sales position in an altogether different field :cool:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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kdnash82, can you explain the system down there? Up here engineering is a controlled profession, and you're only legally allowed to call yourself an engineer if you have the P. Eng designation which you earn by having an undergrad engineering degree and relevant work experience, then passing an exam, and some other little stuff.

It's like doctors. Just because you know a thing or two about the body, you're not a doctor unless you have a license.

Is anyone allowed to call themselves an engineer if they do 'engineering' work in the US?
 

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SmoothTalker said:
kdnash82, can you explain the system down there? Up here engineering is a controlled profession, and you're only legally allowed to call yourself an engineer if you have the P. Eng designation which you earn by having an undergrad engineering degree and relevant work experience, then passing an exam, and some other little stuff.

It's like doctors. Just because you know a thing or two about the body, you're not a doctor unless you have a license.

Is anyone allowed to call themselves an engineer if they do 'engineering' work in the US?
To tell you the truth, I've never thought about it. It's the position I hold with the company. It's the title they gave me. So maybe you're right.

When I look online and I see what a systems engineer makes in San Diego, CA, and I compare it to my salary, I'm at the top tier of that scale.

To be honest with you, they could say my title was custodian. As long as I was still working with military computer systems and making the money that a systems engineer makes, it really wouldn't matter.

I guess you could say the same thing about custodians though huh?
 

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SmoothTalker said:
Is anyone allowed to call themselves an engineer if they do 'engineering' work in the US?
Yeah here in the US, the term in engineer is used wayyy more loosely than in any other country. You don't need the PE cert to be considered an engineer here, only the work experience. You go to Europe and tell them you're an engineer and you don't have licensing, they'll laugh at you. For us guys in the US working tech, this probably not a good thing, but it is what it is

I'm EE, used to work as Test Engineer in Semiconductors, now back in grad school going for a Masters EE
 

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SmoothTalker said:
kdnash82, can you explain the system down there? Up here engineering is a controlled profession, and you're only legally allowed to call yourself an engineer if you have the P. Eng designation which you earn by having an undergrad engineering degree and relevant work experience, then passing an exam, and some other little stuff.

It's like doctors. Just because you know a thing or two about the body, you're not a doctor unless you have a license.

Is anyone allowed to call themselves an engineer if they do 'engineering' work in the US?
North America is goofy that way. Everyone calls themselves an engineer. As far as I'm concerned unless you have the iron ring you're no engineer.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SmoothTalker said:
kdnash82, can you explain the system down there? Up here engineering is a controlled profession, and you're only legally allowed to call yourself an engineer if you have the P. Eng designation which you earn by having an undergrad engineering degree and relevant work experience, then passing an exam, and some other little stuff.

It's like doctors. Just because you know a thing or two about the body, you're not a doctor unless you have a license.

Is anyone allowed to call themselves an engineer if they do 'engineering' work in the US?
It's the same here.
Only after an 4 year degree (with few exceptions), passing the fundementals of eng. exam, working for a designated time (usually 4 years) under a professional eng., and passing the P.E. exam with references can you offer your services as an engineer.

Of course anyone can call themselves engineers. As long as the context is clear and they aren't doing work under the guise of an engineer.

I.e. a custodial engineer or sanitation engineer.

Blurring the line are titles like software engineer.

Those working for a company under the supervision of a professional engineer are somewhat exempt as the company is th entity that is represented and responsible for any work the engineer does.

This may differ if the any project has any affect on public safety.
It also varies by state.

And like practicing medicine or law without a license, the same thing applies to engineering. It is punishable by law.
 

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5/8ths of an engineer!
 

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Speculator E said:
Cool. Are you working or in school? I'm a Chem E senior.
Working, graduated in June. I could offer one piece of advice to you, go to every company information session and at the end, ask for a business card. When you decide to apply for jobs, you'll then have contacts in the industry. Also, the sooner you interview jobs, the more likely you'll get a higher salary.

Neubie said:
I"m thinkin of studying chemical engineering, how you finding it?
Loves it. Very hard though. And not for everyone. If I were you, I would look at the course descriptions for the required courses of all the science and engineering majors and see if you want to learn what they teach in those courses. Some of the course descriptions can be confusing, so let me know if you have any questions.
 

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Reading course descriptions is a good tip, I just want to add a warning. Don't be fooled if the course descriptions sound easy. I thought so as a lot of the material looked like review of high school stuff. The difference is that its at a much much deeper level.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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