Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
There's probably no problem, especially in moderation, but in the US coffee is considered a drink for adults. Kids seem seem to prefer sugary soda over coffee.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Huh ?Originally posted by splinterkb
You guys sound like god damn drug junkies. It almost sounds unhealthy, and maybe you should give coffee a break for a while.
Originally posted by Von Neuen
I work at a Starbucks, but I'm hooked on Cumbre by Juan Valdez. It's got a great, complex body full of sweet nuttiness. It's damn near perfect; the best coffee I've tried so far.
What's your favorite blend?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That was exactly my thinking before I learned to drink coffee, before I found out that so many people treat it as a sensory experience. ("Full-contact coffee" anyone?) But I learned how to taste it, what to taste for, and all the other minutiae involved in taking simple sips of this dark elixer.Originally posted by OzyBoy
I don't really like coffee that much, i have tried drinking it before but i don't know, tea is better i think. I would rather drink water or juice.
8 oclock has been my coffee for over a decade.Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is Javaberry considered to be the gourmet coffee? I mean is "gourmet coffee" is a term or any good coffee can be named "gourmet"?Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
i like the regular best, french is ok. i dont like hazelnut at all. i but whole bean, but grind it in the store. put it in the freezer to stay fresh sometimes.Bible_Belt said:In addition to the 8 o'clock original, they also have French Roast, Columbian, and Hazelnut. Which one do you like best? I hope you buy the whole bean kind and grind it yourself. Pre-ground coffee is awful; the regular folgers ground tastes like they run the entire coffee bush through a wood-chipper, stems and all.
starbucks coffee tastes too hot and sometimes burnt to me.white cloud 8 said:At Starbucks - Venti non-fat Pumpkin Spice Latte w/whip (fall/winter favorite)
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.