Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
There's probably no problem, especially in moderation, but in the US coffee is considered a drink for adults. Kids seem seem to prefer sugary soda over coffee.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Huh ?Originally posted by splinterkb
You guys sound like god damn drug junkies. It almost sounds unhealthy, and maybe you should give coffee a break for a while.
Originally posted by Von Neuen
I work at a Starbucks, but I'm hooked on Cumbre by Juan Valdez. It's got a great, complex body full of sweet nuttiness. It's damn near perfect; the best coffee I've tried so far.
What's your favorite blend?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That was exactly my thinking before I learned to drink coffee, before I found out that so many people treat it as a sensory experience. ("Full-contact coffee" anyone?) But I learned how to taste it, what to taste for, and all the other minutiae involved in taking simple sips of this dark elixer.Originally posted by OzyBoy
I don't really like coffee that much, i have tried drinking it before but i don't know, tea is better i think. I would rather drink water or juice.
8 oclock has been my coffee for over a decade.Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is Javaberry considered to be the gourmet coffee? I mean is "gourmet coffee" is a term or any good coffee can be named "gourmet"?Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
i like the regular best, french is ok. i dont like hazelnut at all. i but whole bean, but grind it in the store. put it in the freezer to stay fresh sometimes.Bible_Belt said:In addition to the 8 o'clock original, they also have French Roast, Columbian, and Hazelnut. Which one do you like best? I hope you buy the whole bean kind and grind it yourself. Pre-ground coffee is awful; the regular folgers ground tastes like they run the entire coffee bush through a wood-chipper, stems and all.
starbucks coffee tastes too hot and sometimes burnt to me.white cloud 8 said:At Starbucks - Venti non-fat Pumpkin Spice Latte w/whip (fall/winter favorite)
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.