Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
There's probably no problem, especially in moderation, but in the US coffee is considered a drink for adults. Kids seem seem to prefer sugary soda over coffee.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Huh ?Originally posted by splinterkb
You guys sound like god damn drug junkies. It almost sounds unhealthy, and maybe you should give coffee a break for a while.
Originally posted by Von Neuen
I work at a Starbucks, but I'm hooked on Cumbre by Juan Valdez. It's got a great, complex body full of sweet nuttiness. It's damn near perfect; the best coffee I've tried so far.
What's your favorite blend?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That was exactly my thinking before I learned to drink coffee, before I found out that so many people treat it as a sensory experience. ("Full-contact coffee" anyone?) But I learned how to taste it, what to taste for, and all the other minutiae involved in taking simple sips of this dark elixer.Originally posted by OzyBoy
I don't really like coffee that much, i have tried drinking it before but i don't know, tea is better i think. I would rather drink water or juice.
8 oclock has been my coffee for over a decade.Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is Javaberry considered to be the gourmet coffee? I mean is "gourmet coffee" is a term or any good coffee can be named "gourmet"?Bible_Belt said:Folgers has some new gourmet coffees out, but I still like the 8 o'clock coffee better.
i like the regular best, french is ok. i dont like hazelnut at all. i but whole bean, but grind it in the store. put it in the freezer to stay fresh sometimes.Bible_Belt said:In addition to the 8 o'clock original, they also have French Roast, Columbian, and Hazelnut. Which one do you like best? I hope you buy the whole bean kind and grind it yourself. Pre-ground coffee is awful; the regular folgers ground tastes like they run the entire coffee bush through a wood-chipper, stems and all.
starbucks coffee tastes too hot and sometimes burnt to me.white cloud 8 said:At Starbucks - Venti non-fat Pumpkin Spice Latte w/whip (fall/winter favorite)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.