Heres my situation. I have a roommate who ive recently developed strong feelings for. We've been living together for almost a year and i found her repulsive from every standpoint for the first 6 months, but after spending alot of time with her ive noticed she has a lot more going on than she lets on. My feelings for her came out weakly in txts at 4am a couple of times. She replied "I had no idea", and "I think of you as a good friend or else i wouldn't have told you have the things i did." She is always very different around me though, im the only guy who she stiffens up if i try to give her a hug hello or goodbye. I was looking for signs and thought she was giving them, but i guess i was wrong. Anyways, i do actually enjoy spending time with her as a friend when there isn't that tension of knowing that the other person likes you. How do i dumb down these feelings i have for her. By the way, the dirtbags that she is attracted to is not even funny, and because of my jealousy i found this website and have been doing the boot camp weeks in days instead, very good results. The quotes and advice in their is great. Im at week 3 which i will do tonight.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
The dirt bag she is attracted to is funny. She thinks he's funny. You were texting eachother at 4am, while under the same roof? This has to be one of the most AFC things I've read here, and believe me, I've read a lot of chump stories.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
soxfan31 said:
How old are both of you?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
23 years old. The thing is, she came on to me when i didn't like her, and since has cooled off. And when i see something i want, i work to get it. In this case i worked to hard and when i didn't get anywhere i always tried to get in one last comment or whatnot, thats where the txts would come in.
thats what im trying to do, but she is almost purposely directing her attention to everyone else other than me when we are out. We are good friends, but everytime i playfully touch her, she gets all weirded out, and its standard kino. I want what i can't have apparently. Plus she lost a lot of weight since i met her, do you think that is why she is put off by me, because i rejected her advance when she was thicker and she possibly is pissed inside that im attracted to her now that she is skinnier?
jtrain 289
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i would tell you to sarge alot but then that still kinda wont work consiidering you guys ****ing live together. Honestly I would just stop trying Its almost imposibble to not have sex with someone living with you . I think she's just trying to play hard to get. Just forget about it Keep doing the bootcamp stuff Stop texting her you live with her lol just try to get intimate with her touch her alot even if she gets wiered out most times when i touch girls at first their wierded but i just keep doing it and its like they cant control their sexual urges because after a while they start touching me and then you know the rest. She was just wierded out because she saw you as an afc but a touch is sexual and dj she'll get used to it trust me.
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Being funny doesn't get you the girls, how funny is Tommy Lee, how nice is he, think about this.Gangster Of Love said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Tommy Lee is and acts like a big kid when he's around the hotties. He is fun, funny, and wild. In fact, it was Style, who wrote a biography on Motley Crew, and spent time with those guys on the road, who described Tommy in those words.HaremMasterThomas said:Being funny doesn't get you the girls, how funny is Tommy Lee, how nice is he, think about this.
Funny gets you very far. Just funny by itself, won't cut it though. Anything by itself won't cut. Stop worrying about semantics and be smart about it. Good looking by itself will only get you so far, funny by itself, etc. If you are sending text messages at 4am while under the same roof, won't matter if you are or aren't funny.
There is funny while being attractive, manly, alpha, and then there is goofy type of funny, goofy while being non sexually threatening. Try the earlier.