Heres my situation. I have a roommate who ive recently developed strong feelings for. We've been living together for almost a year and i found her repulsive from every standpoint for the first 6 months, but after spending alot of time with her ive noticed she has a lot more going on than she lets on. My feelings for her came out weakly in txts at 4am a couple of times. She replied "I had no idea", and "I think of you as a good friend or else i wouldn't have told you have the things i did." She is always very different around me though, im the only guy who she stiffens up if i try to give her a hug hello or goodbye. I was looking for signs and thought she was giving them, but i guess i was wrong. Anyways, i do actually enjoy spending time with her as a friend when there isn't that tension of knowing that the other person likes you. How do i dumb down these feelings i have for her. By the way, the dirtbags that she is attracted to is not even funny, and because of my jealousy i found this website and have been doing the boot camp weeks in days instead, very good results. The quotes and advice in their is great. Im at week 3 which i will do tonight.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
any advice
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Gangster Of Love
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The dirt bag she is attracted to is funny. She thinks he's funny. You were texting eachother at 4am, while under the same roof? This has to be one of the most AFC things I've read here, and believe me, I've read a lot of chump stories.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
soxfan31 said:
How old are both of you?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
23 years old. The thing is, she came on to me when i didn't like her, and since has cooled off. And when i see something i want, i work to get it. In this case i worked to hard and when i didn't get anywhere i always tried to get in one last comment or whatnot, thats where the txts would come in.
thats what im trying to do, but she is almost purposely directing her attention to everyone else other than me when we are out. We are good friends, but everytime i playfully touch her, she gets all weirded out, and its standard kino. I want what i can't have apparently. Plus she lost a lot of weight since i met her, do you think that is why she is put off by me, because i rejected her advance when she was thicker and she possibly is pissed inside that im attracted to her now that she is skinnier?
jtrain 289
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i would tell you to sarge alot but then that still kinda wont work consiidering you guys ****ing live together. Honestly I would just stop trying Its almost imposibble to not have sex with someone living with you . I think she's just trying to play hard to get. Just forget about it Keep doing the bootcamp stuff Stop texting her you live with her lol just try to get intimate with her touch her alot even if she gets wiered out most times when i touch girls at first their wierded but i just keep doing it and its like they cant control their sexual urges because after a while they start touching me and then you know the rest. She was just wierded out because she saw you as an afc but a touch is sexual and dj she'll get used to it trust me.
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Being funny doesn't get you the girls, how funny is Tommy Lee, how nice is he, think about this.Gangster Of Love said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Tommy Lee is and acts like a big kid when he's around the hotties. He is fun, funny, and wild. In fact, it was Style, who wrote a biography on Motley Crew, and spent time with those guys on the road, who described Tommy in those words.HaremMasterThomas said:Being funny doesn't get you the girls, how funny is Tommy Lee, how nice is he, think about this.
Funny gets you very far. Just funny by itself, won't cut it though. Anything by itself won't cut. Stop worrying about semantics and be smart about it. Good looking by itself will only get you so far, funny by itself, etc. If you are sending text messages at 4am while under the same roof, won't matter if you are or aren't funny.
There is funny while being attractive, manly, alpha, and then there is goofy type of funny, goofy while being non sexually threatening. Try the earlier.