"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any advice on this situation

Rocko

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Ok guys, theres this girl at my work, HB7, who totally flirts with me all the time, i get the IOIs i give her IOIs, life is good. I didnt make a move before cause she had a superchill long term boyfriend. Today when i saw her at work, she told me she broke up with him, but now she doesnt seem interested with me, and its not like its cause of the break up cause she said she wants to bone a guy from her other work. Any ideas or advice i could get to try and get her back? i tried a bit of a freeze out, but all she kept sayin was that she wished the other guy would call her. please please please help :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Taviii

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You're already in the LJBF zone. Its to late mate, you should have made a move earlier.
 

Skilla_Staz

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Either shes trying to make you jealous. Or you're now a friend. No worries. Play it like you would if you just met her. C&F, Jokes, Kino, Have a life, etc. If she doesn't come around, who gives a sh*t
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dannowillbookem

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yeah you got friended. a good dose of kino back when she was still dating couldve saved this patient, but her interest has flatlined. i think we've lost her.

either that or shes in a coma, and only time will bring her out.
 

penkitten

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never date a co worker.
however, flirting is great.
 
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