"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anticipation and why sex sucks

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One of the frustrating things is you got 'lucky' and had sex and then you completely forgot her even if she was much hotter than the girls you chased.

I guess you fell for the hedonic adaptation. If you get things to easy you can't process it and enjoy it. That is why a certain level of anticipation is important. Your brain has to really want it over a period of time otherwise it is as interesting as going to the toilet though that can be awesome too I guess but you get my point.

Imagination and visualization write the true sex story into the brain. That is why sex can be an artform. That is why it is said that sex happens in the brain.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yep, in my experience the best sexual encounters involved buildup, not just immediate gratification. The buildup can happen over a night or a month. Women understand this well which is why they're such good seductresses. Sometimes I think women look better in sexy outfits than naked, believe it or not. Clothes off, they all kinda look the same and the mystery is over.
Men's psychology is like making fire versus femals' which is like slowly boiling water. The first feels like consuming fast food. You don't really feel good about it on the long run or even the same day.

 

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One of the frustrating things is you got 'lucky' and had sex and then you completely forgot her even if she was much hotter than the girls you chased.

I guess you fell for the hedonic adaptation. If you get things to easy you can't process it and enjoy it. That is why a certain level of anticipation is important. Your brain has to really want it over a period of time otherwise it is as interesting as going to the toilet though that can be awesome too I guess but you get my point.

Imagination and visualization write the true sex story into the brain. That is why sex can be an artform. That is why it is said that sex happens in the brain.
Got lucky? There is nothing lucky about it. And trust me. If a woman gets to experience sex with me she is the one who is lucky.
 

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Got lucky? There is nothing lucky about it. And trust me. If a woman gets to experience sex with me she is the one who is lucky.
Back in the 60-70’s when that lucky term first originated, it was She got lucky last night, then it was I got lucky, then it evolved to we got lucky. A PC way of announcing or bragging to acquaintances you had sex lately, but I never thought good seduction techniques were due to Luck or sex was a good casual mixed company conversation topic ……
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know many guys will agree with Lemmie.
However, I find getting inside her is sheer ecstasy. I don’t like the chase, or the build up. I’d rather minimize foreplay as well.
 

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Yep, in my experience the best sexual encounters involved buildup, not just immediate gratification. The buildup can happen over a night or a month. Women understand this well which is why they're such good seductresses. Sometimes I think women look better in sexy outfits than naked, believe it or not. Clothes off, they all kinda look the same and the mystery is over.
100%. Sexy lingerie totally hotter than naked,although,it took me into my 20`s to realise this.Just a hint of whats underneath,very sexy
 

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I know many guys will agree with Lemmie.
However, I find getting inside her is sheer ecstasy. I don’t like the chase, or the build up. I’d rather minimize foreplay as well.
That could be the reason why there are so many fat guys because they find fast food awesome but some of them have to suffer for that experience.

Though people are different....

But it sucks if you have a hot girl and after some sex she becomes kind of boring because we are programmed to chase new hotter meat. If you can't cultivate the anticipation everything becomes more boring or lower ROI. Then I guess the complaining starts.








People who chase sex like rabbits might run in some other problems.
 
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Back in the 60-70’s when that lucky term first originated, it was She got lucky last night, then it was I got lucky, then it evolved to we got lucky. A PC way of announcing or bragging to acquaintances you had sex lately, but I never thought good seduction techniques were due to Luck or sex was a good casual mixed company conversation topic ……
Right? As in you have to try and "trick" the woman into wanting to suck your c0ck?? Shame so many guys are brainwashed into the his nonsense
 

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Right? As in you have to try and "trick" the woman into wanting to suck your c0ck?? Shame so many guys are brainwashed into the his nonsense
Right, what started out as a male dominant term, i.e., She got lucky, has now been adopted over time by women to say, He got lucky…
What a man definitely needs in today’s environment is to be up to date on current seduction techniques… aka Game
Some men may not need it, but others need to know it.
rant over, and time to get this tread back on track…
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've always valued the thrill of the hunt. I want to be able to conquer something. Its powerful and rewarding. Winning is the greatest feeling. But it's only a temporary high.
 

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One of the frustrating things is you got 'lucky' and had sex and then you completely forgot her even if she was much hotter than the girls you chased.

I guess you fell for the hedonic adaptation. If you get things to easy you can't process it and enjoy it. That is why a certain level of anticipation is important. Your brain has to really want it over a period of time otherwise it is as interesting as going to the toilet though that can be awesome too I guess but you get my point.

Imagination and visualization write the true sex story into the brain. That is why sex can be an artform. That is why it is said that sex happens in the brain.
I find baddies can be lazy. A bad lay even.

As I get older, a 6+ cute but 18-23 who just sexually charged is something else.

Like as a kid you want a toy on Christmas or to beat the game. You get there and you think, WHAT NOW?
 
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