"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Another possible sh*t test

GS750

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So a girl I was seeing and I agreed to no contact. I have not seen her in a while but we have been in contact, mostly through text, and mostly initiated by her. She told me she's "pursuing" a relationship with someone. So I told her that's fine, but if we're not going to be seeing each other then there's no need for us to be in contact. She texted back "okay". So about four hours later she texts me: "I hope in your future relationships you are more open to expressing your feelings. I never got the feeling that you cared for me in any significant way". I suspect she is trying to bait me into spilling me guts...which I won't. I still have not responded to this text. Suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sino Zane

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She's "pursuing a relationship with someone else," which may or may not be true.

She's either actually pursuing someone else or she's playing games. Either way, ignore her and move on. If she wanted you, she would express that fact instead of telling you that she's trying to pursue someone else.
 

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Yeah, I've gotten those aftermath texts. Just leave it alone. It's bait for you to text on and on and on through the mask of an argument. You just gotta stop the contacting, man. You're not doing anyone any good by keeping in contact with her. Why would you? To hear how she's blowing her new man? Pfft, delete her from all platforms, forget abut her, and be happy.
 

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I think it's one of those that if you text back with "Great" or "Cool", she thinks she's won because you "aren't showing your feelings"....Go figure.

If you want to carry on the dialogue I'd respond with something like "Whatever feelings I had/have are irrelevant now as you're "pursuing a relationship with someone else" :)" or if you want to carry on with your life, ignore and delete.
 

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This is a perfect example of when to ignore. Plain and simple.
She's obviously baiting you into battle but by not offering battle, you've already won.
Any reply - whether it be aggressive, passive, nonchalant, dismissive, placatory or submissive - throws fuel on a fire that really needs water.
The cup of water you hold is silence. And it will drive her more insane than anything you say.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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All good points. Thanks
 
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