"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Another possible sh*t test

GS750

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So a girl I was seeing and I agreed to no contact. I have not seen her in a while but we have been in contact, mostly through text, and mostly initiated by her. She told me she's "pursuing" a relationship with someone. So I told her that's fine, but if we're not going to be seeing each other then there's no need for us to be in contact. She texted back "okay". So about four hours later she texts me: "I hope in your future relationships you are more open to expressing your feelings. I never got the feeling that you cared for me in any significant way". I suspect she is trying to bait me into spilling me guts...which I won't. I still have not responded to this text. Suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sino Zane

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She's "pursuing a relationship with someone else," which may or may not be true.

She's either actually pursuing someone else or she's playing games. Either way, ignore her and move on. If she wanted you, she would express that fact instead of telling you that she's trying to pursue someone else.
 

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Yeah, I've gotten those aftermath texts. Just leave it alone. It's bait for you to text on and on and on through the mask of an argument. You just gotta stop the contacting, man. You're not doing anyone any good by keeping in contact with her. Why would you? To hear how she's blowing her new man? Pfft, delete her from all platforms, forget abut her, and be happy.
 

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I think it's one of those that if you text back with "Great" or "Cool", she thinks she's won because you "aren't showing your feelings"....Go figure.

If you want to carry on the dialogue I'd respond with something like "Whatever feelings I had/have are irrelevant now as you're "pursuing a relationship with someone else" :)" or if you want to carry on with your life, ignore and delete.
 

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This is a perfect example of when to ignore. Plain and simple.
She's obviously baiting you into battle but by not offering battle, you've already won.
Any reply - whether it be aggressive, passive, nonchalant, dismissive, placatory or submissive - throws fuel on a fire that really needs water.
The cup of water you hold is silence. And it will drive her more insane than anything you say.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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All good points. Thanks
 
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