"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Another Interesting Method to Meet a Ton of Women at Once: Lock and Key Parties

Francisco d'Anconia

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Anyone ever hear of these of have attended one? I was invited to one last night and it sounds like fun so I'm going to attend. Lock and Key parties are organized events similar to speed dating in that it brings together a ton of people to meet one another however these parties have NO time constraints!

The party is organized where there are an even number of men to women attending, typically 75 to 100 of each. When you arrive you are given a lock or a key and cards to gather contact information; then you are free to approach whomever you like, whenever you like and for as long as you like! There are no age limitations either (everyone is of legal age of course).

Whenever you meet someone that you like you can close in any manner you like. If you do well enough to "unlock" with someone, you trade in your old hardware (lock or key) you get new hardware AND you get a ticket to be entered in the event's raffle. The more "unlocks" you get, the more tickets; the more tickets the more chances you have to win prizes!

The concept sounds like a blast. Not only do you get to sarge tons of women who are receptive to meeting new people, you could potentially befriend guys to become wingmen, talk about a proving ground for your DJ skills! :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A party that isn't a sausage fest? Outstanding!

Be sure to tell us what it was like Cisco
 

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It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
 

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squirrels said:
It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
We'll see. The thing is that other than giving you a lock or a key, you are left on your own. You're in a room of 75-100 women competing with approximately the same amount of guys. What better way to test your skills?
 

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The way to do it would be to have fun with it instead of acting like you are there to meet girls, just like anything else. The approach would be something like 'hey, give me your whatever, so I can win something." And then leave the girl wondering about you, if you really like her, or if you are just using her to win a game. I think this would be the best way to overcome the presumption of single neediness that women might have against guys at this, or any sort of singles/dating function.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squirrels said:
It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
I don't see it as a gimmick other than it's a social function where the men don't outnumber the women for a change.
 

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Just because it's "gimmicky" doesn't mean that the people there are all screwed up and creepy... I'm sure there are at least a few that are just tired of the headgames and social norms that keep people from interacting the way they really should.
 
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