"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Another Interesting Method to Meet a Ton of Women at Once: Lock and Key Parties

Francisco d'Anconia

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Anyone ever hear of these of have attended one? I was invited to one last night and it sounds like fun so I'm going to attend. Lock and Key parties are organized events similar to speed dating in that it brings together a ton of people to meet one another however these parties have NO time constraints!

The party is organized where there are an even number of men to women attending, typically 75 to 100 of each. When you arrive you are given a lock or a key and cards to gather contact information; then you are free to approach whomever you like, whenever you like and for as long as you like! There are no age limitations either (everyone is of legal age of course).

Whenever you meet someone that you like you can close in any manner you like. If you do well enough to "unlock" with someone, you trade in your old hardware (lock or key) you get new hardware AND you get a ticket to be entered in the event's raffle. The more "unlocks" you get, the more tickets; the more tickets the more chances you have to win prizes!

The concept sounds like a blast. Not only do you get to sarge tons of women who are receptive to meeting new people, you could potentially befriend guys to become wingmen, talk about a proving ground for your DJ skills! :up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A party that isn't a sausage fest? Outstanding!

Be sure to tell us what it was like Cisco
 

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It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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squirrels said:
It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
We'll see. The thing is that other than giving you a lock or a key, you are left on your own. You're in a room of 75-100 women competing with approximately the same amount of guys. What better way to test your skills?
 

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The way to do it would be to have fun with it instead of acting like you are there to meet girls, just like anything else. The approach would be something like 'hey, give me your whatever, so I can win something." And then leave the girl wondering about you, if you really like her, or if you are just using her to win a game. I think this would be the best way to overcome the presumption of single neediness that women might have against guys at this, or any sort of singles/dating function.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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squirrels said:
It's an interesting idea...yet I thought the whole point of this forum was to raise your skill with women to the point where you don't NEED gimmicky dating systems.

The same kind of people who advertise in personal ads are the same kind of people you will find at events like this.
I don't see it as a gimmick other than it's a social function where the men don't outnumber the women for a change.
 

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Just because it's "gimmicky" doesn't mean that the people there are all screwed up and creepy... I'm sure there are at least a few that are just tired of the headgames and social norms that keep people from interacting the way they really should.
 
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