anorexic women: stay away, right?

[Noire]

hi guys, first time posting here and just very, very depressed with major oneitis at the moment.

i love this community, and i always come here to read what people are talking about, but today i feel a severe need to ask for a nudge in what i already know is the right direction

i've been super infatuated with this girl who is an anorexic cutter, despite the fact that i have many other options, and she has been giving me the runaround for a while. textbook hot/cold push/pull ****. a couple days on, a week off, all that. i just need a reminder that getting seriously involved with someone who exhibits that behavior is a bad idea. i am so low today and it would really help, especially if anyone has personal experiences with this

thanks guys

 

[Plutoman]

Uhh.. you need a reminder?

Cutter? Esteem issues, depression, dramatic, bat**** crazy. You get drawn in, and you may get threats like "I can't handle it if you do this..." with implications of suicide. Will talk about how she hates herself, sometimes wishes she was never born, and will draw you into supporting her by victimizing herself, and then push you away and make you feel like ****.

Anorexic? More esteem issues, doesn't know how to take care of herself, self-obsessed, etc etc.

In other words, you seriously -need- a reminder to avoid a potential psychopath, a completely crazy woman?

 

[Noire]

thanks pluto. yeah, it's pathetic, but i actually do crave hearing these things right now to help me snap the **** out of it. that's an issue with my own self-esteem, but i'm still fighting my inner AFC and fell really hard for this one. i don't even know why i like her so much.

 

[zenaddict]

what the fvck am I reading?

she`s basically fvcked up beyond repair and thrash of society and you want to save her with your eternal love?

you aren`t member of this community, you don`t belong into this community, you belong into a nuthouse

 

[foreverAFC]

sounds like you have the savior complex, get all that sh it out of your head, you cant help her and this girl is going to give you nothing but problems

 

[Noire]

thanks man. i know there's something to that savior complex idea going on here, for sure. what a mindf*ck...

 

[Eternal_water]

I once fell for a cutter.

She wasn't a cutter at the time she was a cutter before we met, I only found out afterwards.

When I first met her she was in normal mode and was a very friendly person and seemed to be quite into me, we had fantastic chemistry. But when she started to slip back into her darker mode (and I found about about the cutting, anorexia etc.) it all got quite dark and she messed my mind up pretty bad at the time. I won't go into detail or I would be here all day.


Stay away from them, they are poison.

 

[Eternal_water]

Also interesting to note the top current thread is about anorexic women and the 2nd top current thread is about obese women.

 

[Noire]

I once fell for a cutter.

She wasn't a cutter at the time she was a cutter before we met, I only found out afterwards.

When I first met her she was in normal mode and was a very friendly person and seemed to be quite into me, we had fantastic chemistry. But when she started to slip back into her darker mode (and I found about about the cutting, anorexia etc.) it all got quite dark and she messed my mind up pretty bad at the time. I won't go into detail or I would be here all day.

Stay away from them, they are poison.

amazing how much it can mess with your mind, isn't it? i hardly ever get shook when someone runs hot/cold but this one has brought me to my knees.

that's why i posted here... i can get really lost in my head with this one and she's doing an expert job of come-here-go-away. i really want to beat it.

 

[Noire]

Also interesting to note the top current thread is about anorexic women and the 2nd top current thread is about obese women.

that is interesting!

 

[zenaddict]

that is interesting!

you are not one of us, stop posting

 

[Plutoman]

you are not one of us, stop posting

Leave him alone, man. This should be a place of support. Give him a harsh dose of reality, but don't hamper him in trying to learn.

At that, man, run, not walk, away from this. You know deep down that this is bad for you. Get away BEFORE it gets worse. Simple. Just stop. Stop contacting her, she tries to hang out, tell her you are busy. Draw yourself away. Let her deal with her problems, you deal with yours.

My ex.. good god, she had so many issues, I can quote her in a lot of stuff, but anyways.. she was a cutter at one point in her life. She tilted near suicide at a couple points, she was depressive at times, she was manipulative, all these girls are just ****ed up in the head. You have to avoid them. There's no 'want', or 'should', you HAVE to avoid them if you want to remain stable, sane, and happy.

Run, not walk. Get out of it. Go hit on other chicks. Doesn't matter how much you think about her, just get away. Don't fall victim to our instincts to protect and save her.. all it will do is draw you into the pit.

 

[Noire]

Leave him alone, man. This should be a place of support. Give him a harsh dose of reality, but don't hamper him in trying to learn.

At that, man, run, not walk, away from this. You know deep down that this is bad for you. Get away BEFORE it gets worse. Simple. Just stop. Stop contacting her, she tries to hang out, tell her you are busy. Draw yourself away. Let her deal with her problems, you deal with yours.

My ex.. good god, she had so many issues, I can quote her in a lot of stuff, but anyways.. she was a cutter at one point in her life. She tilted near suicide at a couple points, she was depressive at times, she was manipulative, all these girls are just ****ed up in the head. You have to avoid them. There's no 'want', or 'should', you HAVE to avoid them if you want to remain stable, sane, and happy.

Run, not walk. Get out of it. Go hit on other chicks. Doesn't matter how much you think about her, just get away. Don't fall victim to our instincts to protect and save her.. all it will do is draw you into the pit.

thanks again pluto. i'd like to get out of it without causing a scene and being dramatic about the whole thing so that's what i'm working on now. would love to make a smooth exit that i can feel proud of...

 

[Zarky]

I love skinny broads! Good for banging, not so good for relps.

 

[zekko]

i don't even know why i like her so much.

You probably saw the unusual sight (these days) of a thin woman and was mesmerized.

 

[Noire]

You probably saw the unusual sight (these days) of a thin woman and was mesmerized.

i don't know man, i don't even usually go for chicks that are that skinny. she just got to me!

 

[Darth]

i've been super infatuated with this girl who is an anorexic cutter

I would direct her to medical and psychological help if possible.

 

[Noire]

I would direct her to medical and psychological help if possible.

yeah, she's getting that. thank god.

 

[gravityeyelids]

yeaa I went with a girl for a while who had body image issues (mostly anorexia) and while she was alright (and fun in the sack), she was kinda crazy and dramatic. I'd never date one seriously or get involved but i'd sleep with em for a short while...

 

[pdx1138]

I was on a date once. She was pretty cool and I was considering another date when she moved to stretch in her chair and I saw razor blade scars on both wrists.

Never called her again.