"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PokerJohn94

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Hi! When I was growing up, as a kid I have always looked pretty bad. Having seriously messed up teeth, really bad hair, bad posture, bad facial skin and dark circles around my eyes. As I grow older, I have changed a bit. Started to take real care about my appearance just a few months ago. So today I decided to take a few pics. In the pictures below you will see how I try to look everyday. I try to wear v necks as much as possible. Now I have shorts on, but when i go to work I wear jeans, the same color my shirt is. Usually I have motionless face. I decided to try smiling a lot in my everyday life, but I look pretty weird when I do. Now I am trying to improve my smile, but still can' t get it quiet right. The last pic is best I can do now, but when someone takes a picture of my when I am laughing/smiling I look like total troll.

Ok, now reason for the post is, that maybe you guys can give me guidance, on what I might be lacking, and what can I improve.

For all the answers thanks in advance. CHEERS!

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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time to start working out especially if you like V shirts. you are kinda skinny so it will be easy to look lean, wont be easy to gain muscles though. check bradd80's guide, at the end of that guide there are workout tips.
 

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You Look Like Jesse Pickman, B*tch!

http://masspictures.net/aaron-paul/aaron-paul3/

In Rex's opinion, you should be pullin 7.5's and 8's just off of the strength that you bear a resemblance to Aaron Paul. With that being said, it seem that the only thing you need to is hit the gym, eat right, and get your grill fixed.
 

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As everyone already said. You're fine. Hit the gym, get a workout plan, stay dedicated and work on your inner game.
 

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Focus on attaining 20-30 lbs. of lean muscle, and you will be attracting 8s and 9s effortlessly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's the problem? White, blonde, blue eyes. The odds are in your favor. Just work on inner game. You're a good looking guy. FULL HOMO
 

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No.Danny said:
What's the problem? White, blonde, blue eyes. The odds are in your favor. Just work on inner game. You're a good looking guy. FULL HOMO

Bahaha!
 

Ronaldo7

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Hit the gym.

Don't smile if you are insecure about it.

Style your hair.
 

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PokerJohn94 said:
Hi! When I was growing up, as a kid I have always looked pretty bad. Having seriously messed up teeth, really bad hair, bad posture, bad facial skin and dark circles around my eyes. As I grow older, I have changed a bit. Started to take real care about my appearance just a few months ago. So today I decided to take a few pics. In the pictures below you will see how I try to look everyday. I try to wear v necks as much as possible. Now I have shorts on, but when i go to work I wear jeans, the same color my shirt is. Usually I have motionless face. I decided to try smiling a lot in my everyday life, but I look pretty weird when I do. Now I am trying to improve my smile, but still can' t get it quiet right. The last pic is best I can do now, but when someone takes a picture of my when I am laughing/smiling I look like total troll.

Ok, now reason for the post is, that maybe you guys can give me guidance, on what I might be lacking, and what can I improve.

For all the answers thanks in advance. CHEERS!

PICS:
http://postimg.org/image/9vgnjuy45/
You're pretty good looking but you look so innocent and yeah a bit motionless. Try lowering your eyebrows, like your sort of squinting but not too hard, or smirking when in everyday life. And when you smile at people do it with teeth! Oh yeah don't be afraid to lift some weights. But really dude you're pretty good looking so I'm thinking you're just lacking some inner game.
 

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im not gay dude, you are fine. but you dont look good with v neck tshirts, i know because ive been told the same, workout especially the chest area if you want to rock v necks. they dont look good on skinny guys

about the smile you seem a little insecure. apart from that you look great. just hit the gym, try to smile more openly and with confidence.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah its your posture that's off. Like everyone said, put on some weight and build some self esteem/confidence.
If you feel like crap you will come off to others as looking like crap. If you feel like a million dollars than others will think you look like a million dollars. Simple.
 

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plus i dont know how messed up your teeth are, but if they are and if you work, put some money aside and invest in braces. i had crooked teeth and i know that i've made a great investment in the long run. a great smile is a chick magnet.
 

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Thanks guys for responding so much. I really appreciate it! Actually boosted my confidence a bit. Need to wait for my next paycheck, but I will most definantly join a gym. It appears that its my biggest leak as far as appearance goes.

Thanks Vishyo for the guide. I will read it, and than rereadit.

For the smiling. I have weird smiling muscles. I have noticed, that when people smile with theeth, and look good doing so, they all have pointy mouth corners when they smile. I don't. My corners are sort of round, and that is why I look weird when I try to smile showing teeth.

Guys I do have a question about my hair. Its not like they are not styled. That are. I have a natural vawe going, and I like the way they look, specially in these pics, but numerous girls and guys have said, that I should cut them short. No one have really said, that they like my hair. :D What you guys think about it? And if i should change my hair, what hairstyle would look awesome on me?
 

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guru1000 said:
Focus on attaining 20-30 lbs. of lean muscle, and you will be attracting 8s and 9s effortlessly.
I agree with everyone else. You look like a good looking, healthy young fellow, and it looks like you have a stylish haircut. Only thing is you're awfully scrawny. Get into a full body weightlifting plan (not just your arms) with the goal of bulking up. Note however, that once you put on 10-30 lbs. of muscle, your face is probably going to look a lot different. Not to mention you're going to need all new clothes because your old ones won't fit you.
 

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you are a good looking dude. get invisalign, and goto the gym, maybe a little vitamin D and confidence and you will be killing it man.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm confused, why does he need the gym? Perhaps I've been living in a delusion that ladies don't go for the visuals but for what a man exudes? :)
 

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hudpes said:
I'm confused, why does he need the gym? Perhaps I've been living in a delusion that ladies don't go for the visuals but for what a man exudes? :)
Because the gym does more for your self image than your appearance to other people.
 

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hudpes said:
I'm confused, why does he need the gym? Perhaps I've been living in a delusion that ladies don't go for the visuals but for what a man exudes? :)
because he doesnt look good with vnecks for starters
 

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Just started lifting....how does one gain lean muscle? I am not trying to get bulky
 

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hudpes said:
I'm confused, why does he need the gym? Perhaps I've been living in a delusion that ladies don't go for the visuals but for what a man exudes? :)
Because he looks kinda puny. Women want to feel protected. This is one of the basic things that women are attracted to, and one of the major male gender roles: Protector. Nothing wrong with being skinny, but when you're very skinny it looks like another guy could come along and stuff you into a locker.

Fortunately for the OP, it's a simple fix. Not an EASY fix, really, because weightlifting involves work. But it IS a simple fix. Get a solid lifting routine and start building some muscle.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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