I'll get right to it. I can start up a conversation with a guy easy, but when I see a chick, even if I have something in my head to say to open, I won't do it. I don't understand what my problem is. I had 2-3 chances in the gym today to at least say something, and every time I had something simple to say to open. Girl was doing an exercise half-assed near me, I had a simple opener in my head: "That looks waaay to easy for you, I think you need to up the weight if you want to see any results," Then commence kino by "showing" her how to do it correctly. I did nothing, AFC'd out. Girl was cleaning a mat off in the stretching area, I was doing crunches nearby. I could have easily said: "I think you missed a spot right there." Nope, AFC again. There was one other but I think you get the point. I had no trouble at all having a short conversation with a guy I had never met before, though, and talking to a few guys who I already knew. I'm making myself sick just thinking about it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Angry with myself... Others may be able to relate.
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