I'll get right to it. I can start up a conversation with a guy easy, but when I see a chick, even if I have something in my head to say to open, I won't do it. I don't understand what my problem is. I had 2-3 chances in the gym today to at least say something, and every time I had something simple to say to open. Girl was doing an exercise half-assed near me, I had a simple opener in my head: "That looks waaay to easy for you, I think you need to up the weight if you want to see any results," Then commence kino by "showing" her how to do it correctly. I did nothing, AFC'd out. Girl was cleaning a mat off in the stretching area, I was doing crunches nearby. I could have easily said: "I think you missed a spot right there." Nope, AFC again. There was one other but I think you get the point. I had no trouble at all having a short conversation with a guy I had never met before, though, and talking to a few guys who I already knew. I'm making myself sick just thinking about it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Angry with myself... Others may be able to relate.
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