"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Angry/Negative people can be bad for your brain

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Macgyver

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I would avoid hanging with people that seem to *ALWAYS* downplay or put in a bad light OR EVEN ACT NEUTRAL with whatever you're saying. It's like they can never agree with what your'e saying and in turn for the less thick skinned you may feel insecure like the same people who are being negative. I don't mind receiving negative words, as long as it lets me have a different perspective on things. If you got friends like this, you may have to reconsider them as friends and choose to hang with them based on convenience than a weekly thing.
 

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I'm not going to get into reading another thread but I do agree with the title of it. I don't waste my time with negative people.
 

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Excellent stuff!

Interesting stuff . Thanks for posting this.

Interesting to see it is backed up scientifically; but I think for most people this is common sense. Everybody understands the concept and mechanics of negative or positive re-enforcement.

We are all social cameleons who constantly try to adapt to our social environment; most of it is automatic and does not even happen consciously, some of it comes from the desire to be accepted by the "group".

But indeed a simple change you can make is hang out with another group which is closer to your own ideal..
 

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Excellent stuff!

Interesting stuff . Thanks for posting this.

Interesting to see it is backed up scientifically; but I think for most people this is common sense. Everybody understands the concept and mechanics of negative or positive re-enforcement.

We are all social cameleons who constantly try to adapt to our social environment; most of it is automatic and does not even happen consciously, some of it comes from the desire to be accepted by the "group".

But indeed a simple change you can make is hang out with another group which is closer to your own ideal..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Most guys are haters or have issues nowadays I just stay away from them and deal more with the women i'm pursuing.
 

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Tha Realnezz said:
Most guys are haters or have issues nowadays I just stay away from them and deal more with the women i'm pursuing.
i totally agree with that statement, why is it that if someone is successfull wiht girls it seems to auotimaticly invite other guys to try to game the girls you are talking to? almost all of my guy friends always try to pull something like that..i just let them and when they get shot down..i just laugh and shake my head at them,moronschki's :crazy:

sometimes i 'play negative' just to mess with people..drives them nutts :crackup: anything said with a smart alec grin somehow gets people really miffed..yes i said miffed..:D as far as really negative people, i avoid them like the plague..
 
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