"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OJN_98

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Imagine this, you have a young adult male who’s been raised by his grandmother and mother his entire life w/o the father.

The mother is extremely logical, authorative, hypocritical, and won’t be debated with. The grandmother is very empathetic, not too book smart but has experience, and coddling. The father is affable, calm composured, and insightful. While the mother is insightful, she’s a bit brash. Other men in the family are the father’s way.

Would you think the young male’s way of thinking and attitude be drastically changed? If so, how exactly would it be? This is for a psychology class project.

Thanks, SS.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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OJN_98

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Why are we talking about the father if the kid has been raised "his entire life w/o the father?"
Just to add an extra variable to the project, but disregard that. Focus on the grandmother and mother.
 

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The mother being the dominant figure in his life, being as you put it being authoritve and hypocritical, and unreasonable,prorbably makes most of his decidions for him so he isnt ever going to take charge because mama wouldn't like it.

He probably sucks up to the grandmother because she is warmer than his mother.

He will most likely be shy reserved, and maybe even have a deep dark seeded anger towards women in general. He will never be able to have a proper relationship with them because of the lack of bond with his mother and a deep feeling of feeling unimportant because of the absense of his father.

Perhaps delusional where he has fanticies of harming his mother, and other women to 'right the wrongs?" He feels he has been given in life.


Now with all that said, without actually knowing the guy this is all speculation and a psychological profile from a very cursary glance with your small description.
 

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I would think he would turn out the way he was generically predisposed to turn out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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