"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Analyze this event for me please!

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What's up everybody!
It turns out that HB8 that I tried to get with called me in order to tell me the LJBF test/statement/garbage!

Here's the scoop:

I was on my way home on the bus and she gives me a call:

GIRL: Hey j8snx1, I've been thinking about this for a while, and I really feel uncomfortable about the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing. I'm looking at the future right now, and I don't know if I want to have a boyfriend yet.

(I scoffed inside my head @ this point, BUT!)

ME: Oh please, we were always friends HB8. It's all good.

***less than 10 seconds of talking for a bit***
ME: Well here's my stop, I gotta run, have a great weekend.

END.


I had a big gut feeling that it was some kind of test that serves as a dealbreaker when it came to just being friends or being BF material, but she did say she felt uncomfortable.

Ironically, the mind is such a damn tricky SOB; I then thought about the whole "make her feel as though she had something to lose," and other possible C&F crap I could've said! I'm kicking myself as I post this up!

I'm going to move on, but I'd like you DJ's to analyze and suggest what I could've done during the conversation!

THANKS!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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From what you have down...it seems like what you said was ok......

You should have said something like....oh that's ok, but you'll be missing out...good luck.:cool:
 
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BAH! okay here's the background info:

I started talking to the HB8 3 weeks ago, and it was all fine and dandy with the C&F, kino, etc etc etc. Before the Thanksgiving break, I suggested we hang out over thanksgiving, did the number close, bim badda boom.

I then called her during the break, but her cousin came over so they hung out over the rest of the week, but she suddenly said, "we're JUST hanging out right? Can I bring a friend?"

I had doubts and many DJ's told me she had low IL, so I decided to move on. She then gave me the call today...which brings me back to the thing I just posted.

Could I have done better by making her come after me again OR end on a high note that may make her change her mind?

If not, then what do you guys suggest that I could have done better?
 
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You did what you could. Be nice to her, but don't be good friends if you're uncomfortable.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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