Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Anal sex with a random slut sounds like a no-brainer to me. What could possibly go wrong?OC Speedball said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hey man, I think you’re mistaken. You may have been looking at overall transmission rates, which would be relative risk, not absolute risk. If you scroll down the page, by your own link, “Unprotected anal intercourse carries a higher risk of sexual HIV transmission than unprotected vaginal intercourse.”
Eazy-EVladPatton said:
The link reads, "The receptive risk with anal sex is 18 times higher." So that would be the risk for the woman.Deep Dish said:
I lol'd. Repped.VladPatton said:
I was actually thinking about this as I was writing this thread.Purefilth said:
eazy e was most likely fcking guys like dre was, thats what you gotta do to get into the entertainment industryPurefilth said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HIV is not rare in women; in fact, women are more likely to have HIV than men. However, men are less likely to become infected.OC Speedball said:
Exactly, these number are difficult for understand for the vast majority of people. Props for knowing the difference +1 rep.Deep Dish said:
What an ignorant statement. Being a DJ means looking after yourself and your interests. Yes, growing bigger balls and taking more risks is part of the transition to finding and fvcking women.OC Speedball said: