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Master Don Juan
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diplomatic_lies
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Its a bit hard not to, half the board is filled with your bitterness. I'm actually thinking you're secretly a nutcase feminist trying to give men a bad rep.( . )( . ) said:
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Woah easy there tiger, no need to get all personal over......err whatever you got all sand in your vagina over.diplomatic_lies said:
Which part of my post pissed you off this time mate? want a hug, a tissue?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Now that weve put the myth of chicks wanting an "equal" to bed lets look at the rest of this crap.
No LTR's are not the be all and end all of what a man of worth looks for, thats a chicks reality. And what do you mean by "playing games" ?MysticViews said:
The simple answer to your questions: Most guys here don't know how to deal with women.
They know they are f*ck ups but they don't know why, so they keep experimenting with different personalities, attitudes, tricks, mind games and so on, hoping that one day they will chance upon the key to success. But most of them get stuck in the loop and fall deeper into their trap.
Don't let the arrogance fool you. A lot of the posts here make out that this is an expert seduction forum, when the truth is, we only have a handful of experts here and a sh*tload of delusional geeks seeking approval from fellow internet nerds.
As for relationships, despite what they say about monogamy being bullsh*t and not wanting to settle down, some guys don't have the choice because they are not capable of keeping a woman. Even many of the "top" pick up artists can't keep a woman. They know how to fool women into sleeping with them with lies and games, but as soon as they reveal how pathetic they really are, those women run for the hills.
Other guys know how to keep women but they genuinely don't want the hassle, committment and responsibility of a relationship. Or they're just not into the emotional thing. Some women are the same and it's a lifestyle that's more acceptable these days.
I agree 100% that confidence has nothing to do with placing people above or below you. It's about being happy with yourself and the way you live with nothing to prove.
They know they are f*ck ups but they don't know why, so they keep experimenting with different personalities, attitudes, tricks, mind games and so on, hoping that one day they will chance upon the key to success. But most of them get stuck in the loop and fall deeper into their trap.
Don't let the arrogance fool you. A lot of the posts here make out that this is an expert seduction forum, when the truth is, we only have a handful of experts here and a sh*tload of delusional geeks seeking approval from fellow internet nerds.
As for relationships, despite what they say about monogamy being bullsh*t and not wanting to settle down, some guys don't have the choice because they are not capable of keeping a woman. Even many of the "top" pick up artists can't keep a woman. They know how to fool women into sleeping with them with lies and games, but as soon as they reveal how pathetic they really are, those women run for the hills.
Other guys know how to keep women but they genuinely don't want the hassle, committment and responsibility of a relationship. Or they're just not into the emotional thing. Some women are the same and it's a lifestyle that's more acceptable these days.
I agree 100% that confidence has nothing to do with placing people above or below you. It's about being happy with yourself and the way you live with nothing to prove.
diplomatic_lies
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I just realised, t!tboy is one of our fine examples of bitter men who hate women. Seriously dude, is there something you're not telling us? Ex-girlfriend ripped out your heart?
Mystic, my advice is to judge people individually. Don't think a person is bad just because he's a man, or a woman, or black. Each person is different from each other (its quite obvious, yet people still don't get it). One person's views doesn't reflect on his entire gender/race/religion.
Mystic, my advice is to judge people individually. Don't think a person is bad just because he's a man, or a woman, or black. Each person is different from each other (its quite obvious, yet people still don't get it). One person's views doesn't reflect on his entire gender/race/religion.
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lol shiver me timbers dont hold back mate ,tell me how you really feel
But seriously , I'm happy to roll with either one of those labels when you decide which one it is I am, dont think you can have both?
Sound fair?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.