Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ahh my venomous E-stalker owns me again. I just cant compete.
Its a bit hard not to, half the board is filled with your bitterness. I'm actually thinking you're secretly a nutcase feminist trying to give men a bad rep.
 

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how do you delete posts?! Ack! I changed my mind, I don't want to be involved with this thread... lol (seriously, will a mod delete this post? :p)
 

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Its a bit hard not to, half the board is filled with your bitterness. I'm actually thinking you're secretly a nutcase feminist trying to give men a bad rep.
Woah easy there tiger, no need to get all personal over......err whatever you got all sand in your vagina over.

Which part of my post pissed you off this time mate? want a hug, a tissue?
 

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This thread delivers.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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titdude, why u gotta hate? were not soft cus we dont think of every girls as our *****es
 

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Now that weve put the myth of chicks wanting an "equal" to bed lets look at the rest of this crap.
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2. The other thing that I was curious about...I know there are a lot of 'don juans' here, but don't most of you want to settle down in a long term relationship and stop playing games?
No LTR's are not the be all and end all of what a man of worth looks for, thats a chicks reality. And what do you mean by "playing games" ?
 

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The simple answer to your questions: Most guys here don't know how to deal with women.

They know they are f*ck ups but they don't know why, so they keep experimenting with different personalities, attitudes, tricks, mind games and so on, hoping that one day they will chance upon the key to success. But most of them get stuck in the loop and fall deeper into their trap.

Don't let the arrogance fool you. A lot of the posts here make out that this is an expert seduction forum, when the truth is, we only have a handful of experts here and a sh*tload of delusional geeks seeking approval from fellow internet nerds.

As for relationships, despite what they say about monogamy being bullsh*t and not wanting to settle down, some guys don't have the choice because they are not capable of keeping a woman. Even many of the "top" pick up artists can't keep a woman. They know how to fool women into sleeping with them with lies and games, but as soon as they reveal how pathetic they really are, those women run for the hills.

Other guys know how to keep women but they genuinely don't want the hassle, committment and responsibility of a relationship. Or they're just not into the emotional thing. Some women are the same and it's a lifestyle that's more acceptable these days.

I agree 100% that confidence has nothing to do with placing people above or below you. It's about being happy with yourself and the way you live with nothing to prove.
 

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I just realised, t!tboy is one of our fine examples of bitter men who hate women. Seriously dude, is there something you're not telling us? Ex-girlfriend ripped out your heart?


Mystic, my advice is to judge people individually. Don't think a person is bad just because he's a man, or a woman, or black. Each person is different from each other (its quite obvious, yet people still don't get it). One person's views doesn't reflect on his entire gender/race/religion.
 

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diplomatic_lies said:
I'm actually thinking you're secretly a nutcase feminist trying to give men a bad rep.
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t!tboy is one of our fine examples of bitter men who hate women.
:crazy:

lol shiver me timbers dont hold back mate ,tell me how you really feel :eek:

But seriously , I'm happy to roll with either one of those labels when you decide which one it is I am, dont think you can have both?

Sound fair?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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