I have recently contacted a girl who I haven't been in contact with for a couple of years. I found her through facebook and thought I'd drop her a line because she's good looking. Anyways, I'm fairly new at this all and would like some advice on how to go about bedding her, starting with communicating over the internet.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
An old acquaintance...
- Thread starter Stage
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
say hello? try to set up a date. asap. don't bs around.
get her in your presence and game her hard. make sure she knows what you're about. but be nice to her. if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will let you know. but hopefully even if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will have a hard time saying no to you and sleep with you anyway.
get her in your presence and game her hard. make sure she knows what you're about. but be nice to her. if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will let you know. but hopefully even if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will have a hard time saying no to you and sleep with you anyway.
I've let her know that I want to hang out with her, I closed off my last email with a pretty solid ****y but funny routine and should get a response from her soon enough. I find that most of the trouble with trying to go from online to real life lies in the initial exchanges. It's tough to find that segway. Anybody else have any advice/ideas?
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Ask for her phone number and ask her out.
Don't get too caught up in extensive emailing , IMing it can be a double edged sword.
The more you say in text , the more you may have to back up.
Don't get too caught up in extensive emailing , IMing it can be a double edged sword.
The more you say in text , the more you may have to back up.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.