I have recently contacted a girl who I haven't been in contact with for a couple of years. I found her through facebook and thought I'd drop her a line because she's good looking. Anyways, I'm fairly new at this all and would like some advice on how to go about bedding her, starting with communicating over the internet.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
An old acquaintance...
- Thread starter Stage
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
say hello? try to set up a date. asap. don't bs around.
get her in your presence and game her hard. make sure she knows what you're about. but be nice to her. if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will let you know. but hopefully even if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will have a hard time saying no to you and sleep with you anyway.
get her in your presence and game her hard. make sure she knows what you're about. but be nice to her. if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will let you know. but hopefully even if she doesn't want to sleep with you...she will have a hard time saying no to you and sleep with you anyway.
I've let her know that I want to hang out with her, I closed off my last email with a pretty solid ****y but funny routine and should get a response from her soon enough. I find that most of the trouble with trying to go from online to real life lies in the initial exchanges. It's tough to find that segway. Anybody else have any advice/ideas?
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Ask for her phone number and ask her out.
Don't get too caught up in extensive emailing , IMing it can be a double edged sword.
The more you say in text , the more you may have to back up.
Don't get too caught up in extensive emailing , IMing it can be a double edged sword.
The more you say in text , the more you may have to back up.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.