"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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An interesting "seeing someone" question

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Hi there! I'm new here. I hope I'm posting in the right location. Years ago I used to be a total AFC, but things have changed. Since I started lating dancing a few years ago and got better and better at it, I began having girlfriends on a serial basis. At the beginning I made mistakes (failed tests), but due to the pickup community I now understand the error of my ways.

Anyway, to the question: Last night I met a girl in a dancing club. She was new there, and didn't know how to dance. So I took on the role of the teacher, I noticed her interest level rising on and on, and then I said that I had to go and asked her if she had e-mail. She replied that she did, and gave it to me. Then I asked for her phone number, to which she replied "OK, but just for the record, I'm seeing somene right now". I whispered immediately in her ear in a conspirational tone: "You don't tell me about your problems, I don't tell you about mine, deal?". She smiled and asked whether I wanted her home number. I replied "certainly", got her number and ejected the scene.

Since I haven't been in ths situation before what, according to your experince, which is probably a lot bigger than mine, is my best course of action, especially if I call her (she might say that she isn't comfortable getting together right now because she's seeing someone but we can send each other mail. That could be dangerous because I don't want to enter the friendship zone. She really is something special and I want her).

Please help me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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seeing is not goin steady, by all means procede.
 

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Sorry

I apologize for the spelling mistakes. I typed quickly. Note that I meant "latin dancing" "seeing someone".
Spiderman1979.

P.S. If you were girls, I wouldn't have apologized. I would have
busted your balls for needing corrections ...:)
But you are guys and I have the deepest respect for this forum.
 

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Re: Sorry

Originally posted by spiderman1979
I apologize for the spelling mistakes. I typed quickly. Note that I meant "latin dancing" "seeing someone".
Spiderman1979.

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so she is dancing wit someone else?

if so, dont be dancing with her but "dating" her. set ur own zone blah blah blah.
 

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You seem to have misunderstood me

She is not dancing with someone else (actually in the club once I asked her to dance, she danced only with me for more than an hour before I ejected). She's seeing someone else as in "dating" him. Note that she didn't say that he was her boyfriend and note the way I answered her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tats wut i thought the first time, go to my first post.

seeing someone is not goin steady wit them, by all means procede.
 
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