"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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An Idea on Approaching

Peacebewithyou

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Hey guys [and some gals],

I am considering approaching gals, building up their comfort level, and then giving them my number, while telling them "hey, [whatever their name is] you're pretty fun and cool, here's my number. text me and then we can continue the fun." Seems like a pretty good way to locate the gals who might have high interest from the gals with low interest. What are you thoughts and opinions on this specific approach?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Uncharted

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Honestly I never do that. I always ask for their number. That way, you are always in charge. If you give them your number they have all the power (which you don't want).

The best thing I've started doing is giving her my cell phone and saying "put your number in my phone."
 

Plutoman

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There's some merit in it, though, as a girl may give you her number if she's on the fence, so you waste time contacting her for no good reason at all. If you give her the power, if she makes the investment there's some definite interest, while if she doesn't, you aren't putting any time in it yourself.

So yeah, I see the value. You might win over some girls that are on the fence by taking control, but you save yourself time and effort by initially handing that off and taking control after they show investment and interest.

All I can say is - give it a shot, see if it works out better than asking for it yourself?
 

Alvafe

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well it didn't worked with me, they never call, only when they are really into you, or if they have another reason to call you from a cold aproach like that? don't see it happening. but you can try maybe you have luck :)
 

Darth

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Peacebewithyou said:
I am considering approaching gals, building up their comfort level, and then giving them my number, while telling them "hey, [whatever their name is] you're pretty fun and cool, here's my number. text me and then we can continue the fun."
Hmmm...
1. It sounds like a line ("continue the fun"- IDK man)
2. You don't have their number- leaves you at a loss if you are interested and she doesn't respond.
3. To me it goes against the whole male/female pursuer/pursued idea. It's not really female nature to initiate things. By doing this you are asking her to be so interested in you after a brief conversation as to do something that is fundamentally not their role
4. I don't text, find it inefficient and girly but that's just me
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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