"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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An Idea on Approaching

Peacebewithyou

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Hey guys [and some gals],

I am considering approaching gals, building up their comfort level, and then giving them my number, while telling them "hey, [whatever their name is] you're pretty fun and cool, here's my number. text me and then we can continue the fun." Seems like a pretty good way to locate the gals who might have high interest from the gals with low interest. What are you thoughts and opinions on this specific approach?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Uncharted

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Honestly I never do that. I always ask for their number. That way, you are always in charge. If you give them your number they have all the power (which you don't want).

The best thing I've started doing is giving her my cell phone and saying "put your number in my phone."
 

Plutoman

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There's some merit in it, though, as a girl may give you her number if she's on the fence, so you waste time contacting her for no good reason at all. If you give her the power, if she makes the investment there's some definite interest, while if she doesn't, you aren't putting any time in it yourself.

So yeah, I see the value. You might win over some girls that are on the fence by taking control, but you save yourself time and effort by initially handing that off and taking control after they show investment and interest.

All I can say is - give it a shot, see if it works out better than asking for it yourself?
 

Alvafe

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well it didn't worked with me, they never call, only when they are really into you, or if they have another reason to call you from a cold aproach like that? don't see it happening. but you can try maybe you have luck :)
 

Darth

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Peacebewithyou said:
I am considering approaching gals, building up their comfort level, and then giving them my number, while telling them "hey, [whatever their name is] you're pretty fun and cool, here's my number. text me and then we can continue the fun."
Hmmm...
1. It sounds like a line ("continue the fun"- IDK man)
2. You don't have their number- leaves you at a loss if you are interested and she doesn't respond.
3. To me it goes against the whole male/female pursuer/pursued idea. It's not really female nature to initiate things. By doing this you are asking her to be so interested in you after a brief conversation as to do something that is fundamentally not their role
4. I don't text, find it inefficient and girly but that's just me
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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