You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you act like this is the way you acknowledge every female, you will come off as a weirdo. When on Romulus, do as the Romulans do. I'd stick with the handshake for intros.Originally posted by dbot
bullsh!t. I use this all the time and it works fine. It will only be sleazy if you make it look that way. Just kiss her hand as if that's how you acknowledge every female and don't make a big deal about it. However if you try and be all smooth about it, you're gonna look like a weirdo
No you won't. You will come off as classy. Like I said, it will only look weird if you make a big deal about it. I'm not saying to bow or take a knee and make a big show out of it, just casually touch her knuckles to your lips when she gives you her hand. Trust me, I wouldn't be giving advice on this if it wasn't something I was experienced with. But do whatever makes you feel comfortable
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lol, i'll give it a go