"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Demon

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If these forums force me to advertise my age to the world, I leave. This idea would only be OKAY if it were an optional, but then the point of it all would be gone.
 

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Originally posted by Demon
If these forums force me to advertise my age to the world, I leave. This idea would only be OKAY if it were an optional, but then the point of it all would be gone.
Ok no need for melodramatics, Im sure you wouldnt be "forced" to disclose your age, hopefully if it was implemented it would be optional like your location.
And if it was optional i dont think the point of it would be gone, most people in these forums seem to be honest, well adjusted people that dont seem to care much if someone can see there statistics, and probably wouldnt think showing there age is some kind of massive traumatic issue.
 

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Originally posted by Demon
Not all of us are careless Aussies.
Hmmmm! Take note of his intent to criticize, yet he refrains from using profanity.. :p :D :p

The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't like this idea, but if it is implemented, at least make it OPTIONAL.
 

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Hmmm!

Originally posted by Apollo
Demon, why are you so against this idea?
Probably because he's an honest guy, ... and posting his real age (50) would make him lose the god-like credibility he has carefully crafted on this forum!!!:D

The Edge 'Some have it, and some don't'
 

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I, for one, am against this idea because I think there might be better ways to acheive the same goal.

People are going to be lying about their age left and right. It would be too easy to circumvent.

Furthermore, age is just a number and not always indicative of maturity. Many 25-year-olds act like 15-year-olds.

Like I said, if you're going to implement it, make it OPTIONAL.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It is optional. Hell if you want to know how old someone is, look in their posts. People invariably make some reference to it.

Not sure why Demon is so against it. It is kind of womanly to worry so much about your age.
 

Donjuanpablo

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Originally posted by Demon
...and then he lies about his age...

The probability of this being a good idea died when we realized that we are humans and we lie.
And I can see that you're the first to do that. 24? Pffft, didnt you say in a thread last year that you were "fresh out of high school", looking on how to pick up college chicks for the first time?
 

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So you didn't post this then?

Originally posted by Demon

Does anyone who have been to junior college have any advice for a freshman? I'm just out of high school, two years earlier than normal, and I have no idea what college girls want in a guy.

In high school, it was mostly about sex, drugs, and looks. What is it in college?

Please post your tips, advice, etc. And I mean the whole nine yards from what to wear to what to say to how to act.

In this thread?

My bad....
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Giovanni Casanova

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BUSTED. That explains a lot, actually.
 

Mack Of All Trades

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Demon, what are you some kind of wierdo?

No need to lie about your age. Seems like the edge got you good....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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