Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DJmonster

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Ok was on the phone with gf, without thinking, I accidentally told her that I had told my best friend friend about how she had cheated on one of her ex-boyfriends. She got really pissed, said that was her personal information, and that she had trusted me to keep it to myself. Told her I was really sorry, and that my best friend was someone I always confided in and trusted, but that she was right, I shouldn't have told him.

Now she sends me text message:
"MAYBE WE SHOULD TAKE A BREAK. FRUSTRATED"

now what? any advice?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJmonster

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was thinking of sending this email:

I am very sorry about what I told Nick. You are right, that is not my personal information to give out. He is my one friend that I seem to always confide in, and I did it without thinking. We were talking about what you were doing this weekend, and he was asking me if I trusted you. I told him about you going to see Joe and about the past that you two had, and how I was ok with you going to see him, because I do trust you. I know I made a huge mistake by telling him that. I was trying to explain how I trusted you, and in doing so, violated your trust. I know you are very frustrated with me right now, and I understand if you need a break.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Now send her this message:

"Get over it you uptight, anal retentive drama queen. My friend doesn't give two sh*ts what you did or didn't do to past boyfriends. So suck it up. If you want a break over something as stupid as that then don't let the door hit you on your way out. Repeat after me... nobody gives a f*ck. Yours truly, DJMonster."
 

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Does her EX not know she cheated? Man its one thing to cheat and end the relationship. Its another to cheat and keeping it going, because who knows what sh1t she is bringing back. In fact why are with a girl who is like that, cheaters always cheat again. Take a break? Forget that, break it off and find someone better.

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Write what DJ Gio stated - and another thing....say "No" to cheating hos!!

Your friend should have opened your eyes with his question - your girl knows that she is not trustworthy and now so do your friends know!! She can no longer pretend!! Don't send your symp e-mail to her!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cactus3178

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Are you sure your not leaving anything out? It seems like she's either WAY over-reacting, or there's something else...


Either way, if she wants a break, give her one. Permanently.
 
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