"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Am I wrong not to ask for the number of a hot+boring chick?

Chamber36

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I met a chick at school. She looks like a 7, has potential. When I talked to her she seemed a little sheltered and boring nerdy, despite the fact she'd grown up in Amsterdam.

Now TBH I don't know anything about her. I only talked to her for about 20 minutes. She passed the ball to me when she said: "we have no classes at all next week!!". I knew this meant that I should ask for the number and see if she wanted to hang out. However I figured she was not my type. Decided I would use her as more of a gatekeeper, a chick to get access to other chicks. She had a bit of a nerdy vibe, but she was at least a 7. My conscience just wouldn't allow me to ask for the number. My conscience stood in my way. Is there something wrong with my inner game? Or am I just not interested in boring chicks??

My roommate says I should have just asked for the number.

I will likely be seeing her in other classes this week and then I could also just ask for the number.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The only person that needs to decides whether or not your personal decision are right or wrong is you. It's futile asking someone else for their opinion. If you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it, end of discussion.
 
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Chamber36

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Yeah. She seemed to like me though. I figure I might as well give her a chance, plus I'm sure my johnson wouldn't mind a close encounter with her clam.

So I'm thinking of asking the number under the pretext that we study together instead of the pretext that we hang out. That way I've got the possibility of studying with her as well, and I can remain mysterious in my intentions.
 

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If you ain't feeling it, you ain't feeling it. Do what girls do to us, and Friend Zone the living shyt out of her. Study with her, etc, and perhaps she has some friends. Expand your social circle.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you kinda dropped the ball here bro... I mean sometimes people are feeling low and are boring... but as time goes on you get to be like "WOW, who is this new person here? She's amazing!". And, if you like someone that someone will like you more! So give her a chance... Remember she is a girl and girls always have a couple of weapons in her arsenal, she may not have had the time to use them yet. ;)
 
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