SELF-MASTERY
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Skel said:your hot and i would hit that
:moon:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Skel said:your hot and i would hit that
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I like this. Ladies are still crazy about a sharp dressed man. If you resemble Chris Farley in any way, grooming and style are not the first thing on the menu. It's all about attitude.Embrace said:Work with what you can work with.
Posture, attitude, grooming, style, etc.
Ditto. Don't let some materialistic over-rated skanks get the best of you. If they gun for your looks and play the "he's uglier than sin" bullshyte, they have issues.rocky_mtn said:don't let some chicks try to cut you down. You're a normal good looking guy, like most of us here not supermodels but just average normal people. Your confidence is your game not your looks, get a tan, get some good clothes, belt, watch, shoes and you're on your top game. We are all just regular people,its just how you present yourself. That little bit extra is what sets a PUA from the AFC, get in the mindset and go.,...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
:crackup:WC2 said:Trust me, you're probably better looking than 90% of the bozos on this board.
lol what do ya mean by that?CloneWolf said::crackup:
Just don't sneak up on a glass of water!
Just a joke, not directed at you. LOLDJwanna said:lol what do ya mean by that?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nox said:While we're on the same topic. How about my pictures that i took from my cellphone.
http://img146.imageshack.us/img146/2033/meyc3.jpg
and
http://img146.imageshack.us/img146/5930/me2rq6.jpg
Yes! You can't tell anything from a face and even if you do it doesn't matter as you can't improve it more than with a shave and some skincare products. What's interesting when it comes to looks is the entire image you portray...jonwon said:If you want outside advice, dress up in your pulling gear and we can give better opinions then.