I'm beginning to think I may be too much of a jerk and you guys can maybe tell me if I am. I make fun of her and tease her a lot but I'm just joking and she knows that. I tell her to call me sometimes but it's not like I'm bossing her around or anything. I dont' think I'm taking it too far but I may be. I know girls like to feel special and I know she probably doesn't feel that way if I make fun of her a lot. She jokes back too. I've only complemented her once the whole time we've gone out and all it was was me telling her that I like her laugh. Maybe I should complement her more I don't know.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Am I too much of a jerk?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
My 2c...
1) compliment her more.. yes... not every day... but definatelly more often than u are doing at the moment
2) teasing is good, just try not to do it too much, or to a point where she might get hurt by what u say
3) By complimenting her, u ARE making her feel special, so do it more often, but not TOO much.
anything else?
1) compliment her more.. yes... not every day... but definatelly more often than u are doing at the moment
2) teasing is good, just try not to do it too much, or to a point where she might get hurt by what u say
3) By complimenting her, u ARE making her feel special, so do it more often, but not TOO much.
anything else?
Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
Are you for real!?
I cant believe you just said that.
I cant believe you just said that.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ImSoHorny005
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WTF are you talking about? About the compliments? If so, you have MUCH to learn...
Jesus. Who cares what she thinks, what do you think? Right now you're acting like a whiner. And we all know no girl likes a whiner. You do what you want to do, if she's attracted to you, you're in the score zone, if she isn't, best be moving on to some new chick.
You're overanalyzing like many of the guys here do. You gotta roll with it and not be concerned about what she thinks.
By being all concerned you are just killing you confidence and you're killing the level of attraction you are emitting. What happened to BEING A MAN and DOING WHAT I WANT TO DO.
My advice. Chill out. You're dating her already, what more do you want? If she's not satisfied, she'll leave. And there's nothing you can do about it, you just aren't the type for her.
Now, if you aren't the confident, masculine male, you do have a problem. And that's a self-improvement problem that you have to work out on your own.
Either roll with it, or moan about it.
You're overanalyzing like many of the guys here do. You gotta roll with it and not be concerned about what she thinks.
By being all concerned you are just killing you confidence and you're killing the level of attraction you are emitting. What happened to BEING A MAN and DOING WHAT I WANT TO DO.
My advice. Chill out. You're dating her already, what more do you want? If she's not satisfied, she'll leave. And there's nothing you can do about it, you just aren't the type for her.
Now, if you aren't the confident, masculine male, you do have a problem. And that's a self-improvement problem that you have to work out on your own.
Either roll with it, or moan about it.
Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
Yes.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
Thats about as simple as I can put it.
Clarifying things...
Happiness Renewed said:
~ªêQµïTª$~ said:
I asked you who you were reffering to, and your answer was "yes" .... I dont know about you, but that makes NO sence to me whatsoever!
~ªêQµïTª$~ said:
Happiness Renewed said:
Umm.... I still think that you dont make any sence... so if you would please be so kind as to just answer my original question of "Who are you reffering to? me or bud_2005?"?
Thanx
Laterz...
Happiness Renewed said:
~ªêQµïTª$~ said:
Happiness Renewed said:
I asked you who you were reffering to, and your answer was "yes" .... I dont know about you, but that makes NO sence to me whatsoever!
~ªêQµïTª$~ said:
Happiness Renewed said:
Umm.... I still think that you dont make any sence... so if you would please be so kind as to just answer my original question of "Who are you reffering to? me or bud_2005?"?
Thanx
Laterz...
Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
Lets just stop before we create confusion.
Oh, true.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.