My friend and I feel the opposite, we looked at her patterns (you don't have all the details we do) and she seems to enjoy the ups and downs....She says she doesn't want to argue, or talk on the phone for a couple days...then she calls right when she wakes up and talks to me for 3 and a half hours....including an argument (although they are getting milder without us hanging up on each other at my request, although I still sometimes want to).
Another night we argue for 4 hours until 3 AM, all the while I'm trying to get her off the phone, but she keeps arguing even though I keep trying to end the argument and talk about something else. Then finally I succeed in ending the argument....then she calls me again 4 hours later to talk for 3 more hours on the phone as soon as she gets up, which starts another argument, in all of which she is very dramatic and childish. My friend has overheard them on speakerphone and he sees it now and he and I both feel that she says she doesn't like arguing, but yet calls me constantly and it leads to an argument....why not just give me the suite number? Then we talk for hours and when it's done, she still calls the next morning to argue again. In fact I can't remember the last time I called her. She calls me almost every day to talk for hours...In fact although she called me steadily and regularly before and complained that I never call her on a nearly weekly basis, she has started calling me even more since we started arguing...but she only argues about trivial stuff, never about important stuff that she knows I would walk over....
That said, I've noticed that in the arguments I noted above, it's stuff she doesn't want me to do for her (but in a couple cases she secretly did) so I'm not sure if she's trying to get me to dominate her or what. I know she likes that I lead. But I also know my last ex gf felt we argued too much...apparently 1 argument every few months was too much. She was an emotional mess and could never grow up, even as a 25 year old she was immature...
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