"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Am I to picky?

skinnydart

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 25, 2004
Messages
511
Reaction score
0
Location
Texas
Ok, I really liked this girl and now I've started going out with her but for some reason, I've lost the attraction for her I once. I seem to have this with a lot of people. I think I'm just to picky, like they have to be perfect looks.

What do you guys think, here is a pic of her, am just to picky?
http://www.newbeginning.biz/girl.jpg
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

affliction

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 1, 2004
Messages
190
Reaction score
0
Age
44
I don't think she's very attractive in that picture, but we all have different tastes. I think she'd look a lot better if she got a tan.
 

Dukester

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2004
Messages
538
Reaction score
0
Age
40
Location
Dayton, Ohio
personally i think she is fairly attractive. i give her around a 7.5. she does need to do something and she'd be an 8 no doubt. tan, makeup, hair, i dunno.

i think she looks good. if you're looking for a LTR and dump chicks cuz they dont meet your standards then you have to lower them. i hate saying that, but maybe you are too picky.
if your looking just to fvck (and i dont think you are) then whats wrong w/ that chick?
hell, i'd bang the other one too

all guys have diff. tastes, but looking for that perfect 10 everytime aint gonna happen. i kno lowering your standards makes you "less DJ" but thats bs. are you a 10, probably not, so stop looking for perfect 10's bud.

Good luck...
 

PeeGee

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 5, 2004
Messages
484
Reaction score
3
Age
46
Location
Ontario
Being picky, or thinking that girl isn't good enough implies you think you can get somebody better. Can you? Or is that the best you can do (no negative connotation/tone here)? We don't know anything about her except what she looks like (and I don't see anything extremely out of place here), so we can't make that decision for you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

flexion_

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 13, 2003
Messages
1,617
Reaction score
10
Age
56
When you buy a new car - its great. After about a month its just a car.

Even if you go out with HB10... after a month you won't see that person as a HB10 since you'll:
Have smelled her fart.
Watched her burp.
Heard her snort like a pig.
etc...

I agree with another poster... "what do *you* want?" If you base your entire perception of a relationship on looks then you'll never have a long one. If thats what you want then fine - if you want a longer term relationship then you'll need to figure out what are looking for from your GF - interests, dependability, humour, support, etc...

The girl is fine looking to me.
 

jason86

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 6, 2004
Messages
248
Reaction score
0
Age
40
ill tell u one thing. i used to go for girls who wernt what i really wanted but were ok but still not what i wanted. they were 6 or 7s but because they showed me interest, i used to think eh the girl is noticing me, lets go for her.

but since i saw this site, my mindset has changed and i only go for 8 and 9s. i just ignore the ones who want me but arent all that. looking at those pics, none of them are worth it. settle for the best.
 

Alpine

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2004
Messages
1,576
Reaction score
3
Location
south west, uk
Unconsciously you may be protecting yourself from something.

Nobody is perfect, therefore you will never settle for anyone, is that what you want?

It is quite common for gay men in denial to keep on searching for the 'perfect' and therefore unobtainable women.
 
Top