"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Am I super picky, or just shallow?

kingwilliam

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I am never satisfied. I have met/dated/hooked up with literally dozens of women over the last few months and I have yet to meet one that I really like...


There is always some little flaw that turns me off.... ie,nose a little too big, needs to shed about 5-10 lbs, blah blah blah


I feel like I am just a shallow ass hole and I dont care about personality..... BUT I DO...... I just want both!! If I met a girl that I really got along with, who got all my jokes, and was a blast to hang out with -but she was not that hot..... I wouldnt date her..


Am I an ass hole?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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jophil28

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So do you mean that you have rejected ALL of these women. NO nookie ?
 

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I use to wonder if I was shallow for holding out to meet a girl who met most of my criteria.

Then I met one.. and I felt all the better for not settling for something else..

Don't settle..

if you have a high standard stick to it.. when the right girl comes along you will be happy you waited..
 

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Dear King Billy,
Picky?Perish the thought!!You are merely being discerning...You have a bucket list and you won't settle for less....Good for you....So I agree with Demodulate,but also carry a brief for the Old Jophil,who seems to be suggesting that just because these Ladies don't quite fill the bill,is no reason to deprive yourself.
 

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No, I didnt reject any of these women lol..... I just dont see any long term potential.

I still hang out with them and get laid as often as possible
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Demodulate,

That's great that you found the perfect woman for you.

Kingwilliam I know what you mean about being picky, I'm exactly the same. The thing is the whole noticing a flaw thing doesn't kick in with me until I've slept with them a couple of times. Then I'll notice that tits aren't big enough, nose is big, ass isn't a great shape, etc.

Am worried that I want perfection and it's going to be difficult to find. The women I really like are the 10s but getting them isn't so easy. Basically want a girl who is 5ft 8 or taller, olive skin, dark eyes, big jugs, pretty face and a great ass. Problem is I'm in ****ing Japan so there might be 3 or 4 women matching that description in the whole of Tokyo!! Goddamit.
 

Demodulate

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Miles28 said:
Demodulate,

That's great that you found the perfect woman for you.

I wouldn't say she is perfect.. I don't think there is a "perfect" woman..

but she checks off enough of my wants for me to overlook some of her flaws..

for sure I have dated "hotter" girls.. but she isn't bat sh!t insane, and its a nice change..
 

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Demodulate

Lol. I know what you mean. Have been dating a lot recently after being in an LTR for many years. So far 95% of the women I have dated have been bats*it insane. Before I started dating so much I thought it would be the other way round, i.e 5% crazed and 95% sane.

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