"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Am I super picky, or just shallow?

kingwilliam

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I am never satisfied. I have met/dated/hooked up with literally dozens of women over the last few months and I have yet to meet one that I really like...


There is always some little flaw that turns me off.... ie,nose a little too big, needs to shed about 5-10 lbs, blah blah blah


I feel like I am just a shallow ass hole and I dont care about personality..... BUT I DO...... I just want both!! If I met a girl that I really got along with, who got all my jokes, and was a blast to hang out with -but she was not that hot..... I wouldnt date her..


Am I an ass hole?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jophil28

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So do you mean that you have rejected ALL of these women. NO nookie ?
 

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I use to wonder if I was shallow for holding out to meet a girl who met most of my criteria.

Then I met one.. and I felt all the better for not settling for something else..

Don't settle..

if you have a high standard stick to it.. when the right girl comes along you will be happy you waited..
 

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Dear King Billy,
Picky?Perish the thought!!You are merely being discerning...You have a bucket list and you won't settle for less....Good for you....So I agree with Demodulate,but also carry a brief for the Old Jophil,who seems to be suggesting that just because these Ladies don't quite fill the bill,is no reason to deprive yourself.
 

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No, I didnt reject any of these women lol..... I just dont see any long term potential.

I still hang out with them and get laid as often as possible
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Miles28

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Demodulate,

That's great that you found the perfect woman for you.

Kingwilliam I know what you mean about being picky, I'm exactly the same. The thing is the whole noticing a flaw thing doesn't kick in with me until I've slept with them a couple of times. Then I'll notice that tits aren't big enough, nose is big, ass isn't a great shape, etc.

Am worried that I want perfection and it's going to be difficult to find. The women I really like are the 10s but getting them isn't so easy. Basically want a girl who is 5ft 8 or taller, olive skin, dark eyes, big jugs, pretty face and a great ass. Problem is I'm in ****ing Japan so there might be 3 or 4 women matching that description in the whole of Tokyo!! Goddamit.
 

Demodulate

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Miles28 said:
Demodulate,

That's great that you found the perfect woman for you.

I wouldn't say she is perfect.. I don't think there is a "perfect" woman..

but she checks off enough of my wants for me to overlook some of her flaws..

for sure I have dated "hotter" girls.. but she isn't bat sh!t insane, and its a nice change..
 

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Demodulate

Lol. I know what you mean. Have been dating a lot recently after being in an LTR for many years. So far 95% of the women I have dated have been bats*it insane. Before I started dating so much I thought it would be the other way round, i.e 5% crazed and 95% sane.

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