Background: I met this girl at a friend's party 2 weeks ago. I am in my mid 20s and she just graduated college and moved to New York. She gave me her number and we went on 3 dates (just got done with the third). On the first date she was still getting over a cold so there was nearly zero keno. On the second date I totally got the idea that this girl was playing hard to get as she a) came back to my apt but did not want to kiss me b) sat on my bed and did not want to kiss me. Anyways, onto date 3, which I just got done with. We hold hands quite a bit and we hug, but when I move in for the kiss she pulls away. At the end of the date, we wait for the train together and she tells me that she just moved to the city and wants to establish a network of friends before she has a bf and that she would like to be friends first... what the heck does that mean? Am I just in the friend zone and that I have no shot? What does lets just be friends first mean? What should I do?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Am I screwed?
- Thread starter mrblue
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