Background: I met this girl at a friend's party 2 weeks ago. I am in my mid 20s and she just graduated college and moved to New York. She gave me her number and we went on 3 dates (just got done with the third). On the first date she was still getting over a cold so there was nearly zero keno. On the second date I totally got the idea that this girl was playing hard to get as she a) came back to my apt but did not want to kiss me b) sat on my bed and did not want to kiss me. Anyways, onto date 3, which I just got done with. We hold hands quite a bit and we hug, but when I move in for the kiss she pulls away. At the end of the date, we wait for the train together and she tells me that she just moved to the city and wants to establish a network of friends before she has a bf and that she would like to be friends first... what the heck does that mean? Am I just in the friend zone and that I have no shot? What does lets just be friends first mean? What should I do?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Am I screwed?
- Thread starter mrblue
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