"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Am I proof that men cannot be happy without a dating life?

btownbuck2012

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you have to understand that I'm a high test dark skinned male. There is a dude on a different thread who has similar genetics to me who is like 55 and looks like he could be 38

Dating somebody older than me in 10 years will look like she's my mom...because in 10 years, I will still look like I'm 28-30. In 20 years, it will look like I'm dating my grandma because I'll probably look 33 at 49

If I'm even somewhat interested in a long term thing (which I am), I need to date an ethnic woman like 5 years younger than me. At least when I'm 40, she'll be 36 and it won't look ridiculous
I am in awe at your lack of self awareness.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MrJack

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I hate rejection

I see a woman I like and I automatically assume she doesn't want to be bothered

I have a very negative and defeatist attitude towards dating. I feel like any decent woman already has a million options and doesn't want to be bothered
Boom. There we go you found the reason. Now the only way to reverse that thought process is to approach those women anyways and get blown out a thousand times until it doesn’t affect you anymore.

You will eventually become way more confident and it will show, and your chances will improve.

So back to my original point: STEP OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE.

It’s the only way to change yourself and grow bruh.
 

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Bigdave17 is proof that a puszy drought makes it hard for a man to pull anyone at all.
 

R.U.G.

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Bigdave17 is proof that a puszy drought makes it hard for a man to pull anyone at all.
Not really. If a man lowers his standards, he can get pvssy today. However, this is not Big Dave's biggest issue. He is his biggest issue. If he got out of his own way, things in his dating realm would be much easier. This, of course, would never happen.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not really. If a man lowers his standards, he can get pvssy today. However, this is not Big Dave's biggest issue. He is his biggest issue. If he got out of his own way, things in his dating realm would be much easier. This, of course, would never happen.
I don't think he could fvck if he wants to. He's also too snobby and hardheaded.
 

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You guys, minus big Dave, who are still entertaining what big Dave posts - you guys are my HEROES! Gawd damn you have incredible stamina!
 

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Why don't you just go on one of your vacations and meet someone in Europe or the Middle East? You are so loaded but you come on here and write a bunch of threads and come across like you are living in your parent's basement and have all the time in the world. I find it hard to believe for some one of your professed caliber having a problem with dating the type of women you want unless you are lying about something.

The first thing I would do is travel, travel, and travel and meet women in other countries. Join site like loveme.com, and go on a romance tour. You have all these options and you want to complain on here. I book a romance tour with loveme.com right now if I were you and take a break from this place. You need to go out on one of these big social tours and jump in the deep end of that pool otherwise your 10 vacations per year or whatever is a waste.
I want a girl who lives 15 minutes from me
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There is zero history of health problems in my family. I might live until I'm 105 given my excellent lifestyle
There is zero history of health problems in my family! No one in my family has ever died! I come from a long line of immortals!
The World Health Organization wants to use my blood as a cure to the common cold!
My skin can never age!
The movie Highlander is loosely based on my life!
I am the most muscular man in Chicago! I am the best car salesman in the world!
I am the wealthiest man on the planet (for my area)!
People from my planet can fly!
Every poster on SoSuave would gladly kill themselves if they could only change places with me (except Guru1000)!
I have the best social circle in Chicago, with the best status!
I go to the best bars, clubs, concerts, and events!
My wingmen are James Cameron and Martin Scorcese!


All I want to do is find a filthy, dirty club wh0re with a heart of gold! And yet, even with all my advantages I have not found one!
Life is unfair.
 

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There is zero history of health problems in my family! No one in my family has ever died! I come from a long line of immortals!
The World Health Organization wants to use my blood as a cure to the common cold!
My skin can never age!
The movie Highlander is loosely based on my life!
I am the most muscular man in Chicago! I am the best car salesman in the world!
I am the wealthiest man on the planet (for my area)!
People from my planet can fly!
Every poster on SoSuave would gladly kill themselves if they could only change places with me (except Guru1000)!
I have the best social circle in Chicago, with the best status!
I go to the best bars, clubs, concerts, and events!
My wingmen are James Cameron and Martin Scorcese!


All I want to do is find a filthy, dirty club wh0re with a heart of gold! And yet, even with all my advantages I have not found one!
Life is unfair.
Its the same demographics of people who go to bars and clubs as anything else

I see all the girls from my gym out at the bars I go to. You guys would all say gym women are some of the highest quality yet bar chicks are garbage...its the same people
 

zekko

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You guys would all say gym women are some of the highest quality
I've never said that. It's great that they get some exercise, but that doesn't mean they have a high moral standing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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