Am I proof that men cannot be happy without a dating life?

[bigdave17]

literally the rest of my life is about as perfect as you could hope for. I mean 99.99% of the world would kill to have these aspects of my life

- making huge money at a young age in a cheap area. in 3 years, i will have a paid for house and paid for luxury car. Basically I will be able to do whatever I want and have a pretty awesome lifestyle on 3300 a month while making 16k a month. I don't even know what I'm gonna do with the money

- super healthy and strong. There is zero history of health problems in my family. I might live until I'm 105 given my excellent lifestyle

- 15 to 20+ great friends who love me dearly

- amazing lifestyle - vacations 10+ times a year in amazing spots (miami, toronto, new york city, etc...)

Yet I'm not really happy because I've wanted a girlfriend for 10 years to no avail. Just proves how powerful and important dating life is to having a well balanced and happy mental state.

 

[MrJack]

literally the rest of my life is about as perfect as you could hope for. I mean 99.99% of the world would kill to have these aspects of my life

- making huge money at a young age in a cheap area. in 3 years, i will have a paid for house and paid for luxury car. Basically I will be able to do whatever I want and have a pretty awesome lifestyle on 3300 a month while making 16k a month. I don't even know what I'm gonna do with the money

- super healthy and strong. There is zero history of health problems in my family. I might live until I'm 105 given my excellent lifestyle

- 15 to 20+ great friends who love me dearly

- amazing lifestyle - vacations 10+ times a year in amazing spots (miami, toronto, new york city, etc...)

Yet I'm not really happy because I've wanted a girlfriend for 10 years to no avail. Just proves how powerful and important dating life is to having a well balanced and happy mental state.

If what you’re doing to get a gf hasn’t worked for 10 years, change it up.

Something you are doing is wrong.

Step outside of your comfort zone and step outside of your unrealistic standards and things will change for you.

 

[bigdave17]

If what you’re doing to get a gf hasn’t worked for 10 years, change it up.

Something you are doing is wrong.

Step outside of your comfort zone and step outside of your unrealistic standards and things will change for you.

Bro when you say step outside of comfort zone, its not like I stay at home every night. I go to the best bars, clubs, restaurants, concerts, sports events, festivals, etc.... I try to be as busy and social as possible. I make friends and meet people everywhere I go...

As far as unrealistic standards. My problem is more that I want something very specific. I would actually prefer a 7/10 Armenian girl over a 9/10 white girl

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Bro when you say step outside of comfort zone, its not like I stay at home every night. I go to the best bars, clubs, restaurants, concerts, sports events, festivals, etc.... I try to be as busy and social as possible. I make friends and meet people everywhere I go...

As far as unrealistic standards. My problem is more that I want something very specific. I would actually prefer a 7/10 Armenian girl over a 9/10 white girl

For the bars and parties it's more powerful to hang with someone fvcking in that group. You will fvck due to association.

 

[MrJack]

Bro when you say step outside of comfort zone, its not like I stay at home every night. I go to the best bars, clubs, restaurants, concerts, sports events, festivals, etc.... I try to be as busy and social as possible. I make friends and meet people everywhere I go...

As far as unrealistic standards. My problem is more that I want something very specific. I would actually prefer a 7/10 Armenian girl over a 9/10 white girl

I didn’t mean stepping outside your comfort zone as far as socially. I meant stepping outside your comfort zone with whatever that zone is FOR YOU. Unless you are completely 100% comfortable in everything you do then maybe that doesn’t apply.. but most people have some point where they are, I know I do.

How many Armenian girls are there in Chicago? I have no idea but wanting that specific thing severely limits your own options maybe that’s why.

Try and find some Armenian dating site maybe? Lol idk what else to say.

 

[bigdave17]

I didn’t mean stepping outside your comfort zone as far as socially. I meant stepping outside your comfort zone with whatever that zone is FOR YOU. Unless you are completely 100% comfortable in everything you do then maybe that doesn’t apply.. but most people have some point where they are, I know I do.

How many Armenian girls are there in Chicago? I have no idea but wanting that specific thing severely limits your own options maybe that’s why.

Try and find some Armenian dating site maybe? Lol idk what else to say.

I am open to dating Spanish/Mexican/Puerto Rican also but the problem with that group is most are single moms. I love middle eastern women also but most of them are Muslim (that's a no go also)

I would date Italian or Greek or really any brown/olive complexion. I would also date Asian woman if she didn't have typical flat asian woman body. I gotta have some ass and thighs. I would probably date a light skin black skin woman also

I'm picky with white women. They have to look somewhat dark. I don't care for pale or light skin women at all

 

[MrJack]

I am open to dating Spanish/Mexican/Puerto Rican also but the problem with that group is most are single moms. I love middle eastern women also but most of them are Muslim (that's a no go also)

I would date Italian or Greek or really any brown/olive complexion. I would also date Asian woman if she didn't have typical flat asian woman body. I gotta have some ass and thighs. I would probably date a light skin black skin woman also

I'm picky with white women. They have to look somewhat dark. I don't care for pale or light skin women at all

Well there’s plenty of women here in Chicago that are dark/olive complexion you just have to go get them now.

There are tons of them in the bars, clubs, events that you say you go to.

Simply up to you to take action.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well there’s plenty of women here in Chicago that are dark/olive complexion you just have to go get them now.

There are tons of them in the bars, clubs, events that you say you go to.

Simply up to you to take action.

He needs a steady source of puzzy so he has zero NEED to catch these bytches. Hell do it for fun.

 

[bigdave17]

Well there’s plenty of women here in Chicago that are dark/olive complexion you just have to go get them now.

There are tons of them in the bars, clubs, events that you say you go to.

Simply up to you to take action.

I agree 100%

im not putting nearly enough effort

 

[R.U.G.]

Dave, the problem is in your head, not anywhere else. Even when you finally lose your virginity and have sex with the goddess of your dreams, you will still be unhappy because you are unhappy with yourself. This is why some here have told you to seek professional help; preferable with a male psychologist. You seem a bit narcissistic at times. It might be one of your issues you can examine with some progressional help.

 

[Fzatf]

literally the rest of my life is about as perfect as you could hope for. I mean 99.99% of the world would kill to have these aspects of my life

- making huge money at a young age in a cheap area. in 3 years, i will have a paid for house and paid for luxury car. Basically I will be able to do whatever I want and have a pretty awesome lifestyle on 3300 a month while making 16k a month. I don't even know what I'm gonna do with the money

- super healthy and strong. There is zero history of health problems in my family. I might live until I'm 105 given my excellent lifestyle

- 15 to 20+ great friends who love me dearly

- amazing lifestyle - vacations 10+ times a year in amazing spots (miami, toronto, new york city, etc...)

Yet I'm not really happy because I've wanted a girlfriend for 10 years to no avail. Just proves how powerful and important dating life is to having a well balanced and happy mental state.

It doesn't even take your personal experience to realize dating and finding a significant other or having sex are important. You can see it in the reactions such as the incel, mgtow, and pua groups. For many, they value it more than your wealth and success. It's so vital that some men see dating as impossible and withdraw on their career and education aspirations and choose a life of video games and junk food.

It's a primary biological drive for a species that needs to survive through procreation. Men especially don't always forge close relationships where they can show their emotions except with a significant other.

I personally am focusing on education and career as I put it on hold with my now failed marriage. However, women are in the back of my mind and I plan to refocus my efforts with women once I finish school. In the meantime I date on tinder, but my efforts aren't as focused as they will be once I'm done.

There is one major thing you should do Dave and that's to stop dating with the intent of marrying and spending the next 20 years or so with a woman. Relationships fail. You need to be flexible and date with less qualifications on the woman. Don't exclude a girl just due to the fact that she is white or a few years too old. For all you know the women who are interested now could make you happy.

 

[MrJack]

He needs a steady source of puzzy so he has zero NEED to catch these bytches. Hell do it for fun.

Agreed. Once you don’t NEED these bytches then these bytches will come to you more naturally.

But since he doesn’t have the steady supply he’s pedestalizing the ones he wants and never getting them. Vicious cycle.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Agreed. Once you don’t NEED these bytches then these bytches will come to you more naturally.

But since he doesn’t have the steady supply he’s pedestalizing the ones he wants and never getting them. Vicious cycle.

He's dying and starving for it. He wants to prove to these *****s that he's worthy.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

literally the rest of my life is about as perfect as you could hope for. I mean 99.99% of the world would kill to have these aspects of my life

- making huge money at a young age in a cheap area. in 3 years, i will have a paid for house and paid for luxury car. Basically I will be able to do whatever I want and have a pretty awesome lifestyle on 3300 a month while making 16k a month. I don't even know what I'm gonna do with the money

- super healthy and strong. There is zero history of health problems in my family. I might live until I'm 105 given my excellent lifestyle

- 15 to 20+ great friends who love me dearly

- amazing lifestyle - vacations 10+ times a year in amazing spots (miami, toronto, new york city, etc...)

Yet I'm not really happy because I've wanted a girlfriend for 10 years to no avail. Just proves how powerful and important dating life is to having a well balanced and happy mental state.

You are the proof that a superficial materialism is a lie... that it will never lead to the promised happiness.

 

[MrJack]

I agree 100%

im not putting nearly enough effort

So let’s pinpoint why you aren’t putting forth the effort.

Could it be something regarding that comfort zone I was talking about earlier? What could possibly be holding you back from trying if you’re comfortable with everything you do?

This is a forum nobody knows who the fvck you are and no one cares. You know deep down what’s holding you back but you just don’t say it or do anything to fix it. I think that’s the problem here.

You say you want a gf but you aren’t making enough of an effort to get one with the many different flavors walking around chi city.

 

[bigdave17]

Dave, the problem is in your head, not anywhere else. Even when you finally lose your virginity and have sex with the goddess of your dreams, you will still be unhappy because you are unhappy with yourself. This is why some here have told you to seek professional help; preferable with a male psychologist. You seem a bit narcissistic at times. It might be one of your issues you can examine with some progressional help.

I've had sex with 12 to 15 women. That number could probably be 30 if I didn't stop last 2 years having sex with women I can't date

the problem is that does nothing for me. Smashing single moms or 35 year olds never helped me get the childless 26 year old I wanted. I haven't had sex with a woman in about 7 months and right now, im the most confident I've ever been (which isn't saying much now)

My point is having sex with women below my league doesn't help me in any way. I've done it and found it to be totally pointless

 

[bigdave17]

You are the proof that a superficial materialism is a lie... that it will never lead to the promised happiness.

its not just superficial materialism, i have great relationships with family/friends also, which is one of the biggest keys to happiness

 

[bigdave17]

So let’s pinpoint why you aren’t putting forth the effort.

Could it be something regarding that comfort zone I was talking about earlier? What could possibly be holding you back from trying if you’re comfortable with everything you do?

This is a forum nobody knows who the fvck you are and no one cares. You know deep down what’s holding you back but you just don’t say it or do anything to fix it. I think that’s the problem here.

You say you want a gf but you aren’t making enough of an effort to get one with the many different flavors walking around chi city.

I hate rejection

I see a woman I like and I automatically assume she doesn't want to be bothered

I have a very negative and defeatist attitude towards dating. I feel like any decent woman already has a million options and doesn't want to be bothered

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I hate rejection

I see a woman I like and I automatically assume she doesn't want to be bothered

I have a very negative and defeatist attitude towards dating. I feel like any decent woman already has a million options and doesn't want to be bothered

The women you want probably aren't decent. It's a well dressed and glammed 25-26 years old whose multidating and using men.

 

[bigdave17]

The women you want probably aren't decent. It's a well dressed and glammed 25-26 years old whose multidating and using men.

my best friend has a beautiful 29 year old GF who is a fantastic person

Meanwhile my other friend had a disgusting 44 year old hag who cheated on him

You never know. Good and bad people come in all shapes and forms

 

[Fzatf]

I hate rejection

I see a woman I like and I automatically assume she doesn't want to be bothered

I have a very negative and defeatist attitude towards dating. I feel like any decent woman already has a million options and doesn't want to be bothered

You recognize this weakness. Now what are you going to do about it? Can you force yourself to ask out 100 women even if it means 99 rejections?