"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I met this girl in a club back on the 1st of July. SHe's from out of town, but we had a great time hanging/making out until early in the morning. I got her number and told her I would give her a call.

I called her this past thursday on my break from work and we had a good little conversation that I had to cut short since I had to get back to work. She lives about 2 hours away and I mentioned that I might be in town on sunday since my roomate lives there and we might possibly make the trip up. SHe mentioned that some of her friends were leaving town for a week, but she'd be around. Told her I would call her later on and let her know where I'd be this weekend.

The thing is that the only reason I would've made a trip up there would've been to see her. The roomate thing was just an excuse. Course, I never told her that.

Some friend s of mine from out of town popped in unexpectedly so I want to hang with them this weekend. I haven't called the girl back because I'm not exactly sure what I should tell her. I mean, is it a big deal to wait another week before going up to see her? I'm just wondering if waiting will cause her interest level to fall since we've only ever hung out one time which was over a week ago now.

What do you think I should do? Btw, how often should I be talking to her on the phone. Only had the one short conversation so far. really like her though. Let me know.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by mecca411
I met this girl in a club back on the 1st of July. SHe's from out of town, but we had a great time hanging/making out until early in the morning. I got her number and told her I would give her a call.

I called her this past thursday on my break from work and we had a good little conversation that I had to cut short since I had to get back to work. She lives about 2 hours away and I mentioned that I might be in town on sunday since my roomate lives there and we might possibly make the trip up. SHe mentioned that some of her friends were leaving town for a week, but she'd be around. Told her I would call her later on and let her know where I'd be this weekend.

The thing is that the only reason I would've made a trip up there would've been to see her. The roomate thing was just an excuse. Course, I never told her that.

Some friend s of mine from out of town popped in unexpectedly so I want to hang with them this weekend. I haven't called the girl back because I'm not exactly sure what I should tell her. I mean, is it a big deal to wait another week before going up to see her? I'm just wondering if waiting will cause her interest level to fall since we've only ever hung out one time which was over a week ago now.

What do you think I should do? Btw, how often should I be talking to her on the phone. Only had the one short conversation so far. really like her though. Let me know.
If your frineds are only here for this weekend I'd go with them and tell her something came up, and you'll get in touch with her as soon as you can. Guys before girls.
 

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yup. Guys before girls
 

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I called her phone at 8:40 pm and got her message machine. Is it ok to leave messages at this point? I wasn't sure so I just hung up.
 
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Save this girl for next week/another time and try to meet some other women closer to home this weekend since your buds are in town

Call her and do a *67 before dialing and when you get her on the phone tell her you'll have to try again next week that something came up and then ask her to meet you half way if possible.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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