"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Am I making excuses not to ask her out?

stuka1939

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I know this topic about dating co-workers has been brought up before...but.

I am 31 and just started a professional civil service job (a career job). I work upstairs and there is this attractive petite brunette (my type) 10 years my junior who works part-time downstairs. It is a rather small atmosphere that has about 25 employees, the majority (75%) being middle aged women.

I am attracted to this girl....(My heart rate increases when I am around her)...however I am torn between two philosophies....

1.) I tend to overanalyze things and it might affect my mental state dating a co-worker

2.) I don't really like people knowing my business

3.) Although I don't really work with this girl, I have a decent amount of contact with the people she works with. If things go sour...it would be awkward.

4.) There are other girls out there (I just have to find them) who are similiar to her in looks who ARE NOT co-workers....

5.) I care about this job, although it is very easy work.


Reasons to ask her out:

1.) You have to take risks in life and could be missing a good opportunity...

2.) I don't get out too much and I don't have much luck at the bars/clubs...



What do you guys think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Unless your company expressly forbids it, go for it. Hot 21-year-olds are something I don't advocate passing on very often!
 
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