"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Am I making excuses not to ask her out?

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I know this topic about dating co-workers has been brought up before...but.

I am 31 and just started a professional civil service job (a career job). I work upstairs and there is this attractive petite brunette (my type) 10 years my junior who works part-time downstairs. It is a rather small atmosphere that has about 25 employees, the majority (75%) being middle aged women.

I am attracted to this girl....(My heart rate increases when I am around her)...however I am torn between two philosophies....

1.) I tend to overanalyze things and it might affect my mental state dating a co-worker

2.) I don't really like people knowing my business

3.) Although I don't really work with this girl, I have a decent amount of contact with the people she works with. If things go sour...it would be awkward.

4.) There are other girls out there (I just have to find them) who are similiar to her in looks who ARE NOT co-workers....

5.) I care about this job, although it is very easy work.


Reasons to ask her out:

1.) You have to take risks in life and could be missing a good opportunity...

2.) I don't get out too much and I don't have much luck at the bars/clubs...



What do you guys think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Unless your company expressly forbids it, go for it. Hot 21-year-olds are something I don't advocate passing on very often!
 
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